Fatima Al-Kindi: a father asking for his son to be imprisoned and another who expelled him from the house
A social worker warns of excessive use of "paternity"
Fatima Al-Kindi: "In many cases, children are not as bad as their parents claim, but some of them are excellent."
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The head of the social support department in the Women and Child Protection Department in Dubai Police, Fatima Al-Kindi, said that there are fathers who abuse their parental authority over their children, which reflects negatively on the relationship between the two parties, pointing out that the administration has dealt with several cases of this kind. During the last period, before it became evident that fathers exaggerated the use of their paternity towards their children, overused their suspicion of them, and devised methods of punishing them, without there really being a justification for that.
She explained to "Emirates Today" that one of the police stations recently received an angry father, who requested that his son be imprisoned, alleging his delinquency, and his out of control, and another expelled his son from the house, because of his late return, without paying any attention to what may result from that. Risks, indicating that the two sons in the previous two cases were not as bad as their parents claimed, but rather they were superior and had positive social characteristics.
Al-Kindi indicated that the absence of dialogue between parents and children, especially in adolescence, exacerbates simple problems, pointing out that many fathers abuse their parental authority, in many cases, so one of them acts with a degree of arbitrariness and cruelty, taking advantage of being in control of his son's expenses.
And as soon as a dispute occurs between them, he deals with it with a kind of cruelty.
She added that she did not reproach a son at all because of his father’s complaint, because many of the children whom their parents report are not as bad as they describe them, but rather that many of them are superior and are morally and socially committed, referring to a father who resorted to the police when he discovered that one of his son’s friends was using drugs. , Although the boy himself did not know this, and he did not smoke a cigarette in his life, but he is hardworking and excels in his studies.
She emphasized that the father is hardened sometimes, being the stronger party, while his son is powerless, so the former uses his authority in a disturbing way, alienating the son, and affecting him psychologically, and may leave profound effects on his future life path.
And I warned of a mistake that some make, which is to expel the son from the house if he comes late, or for any other reason, because there are those who grab him outside, and such behavior may be the cause of his deviation.
Al-Kindi explained that parents who are keen on raising their children in a healthy and normal way will not suffer at all when they reach the stage of adolescence (from 12 to 18 years old), but rather increase their chances of having a successful son or daughter, complete in behavioral and psychological terms.
She drew attention to the need to pay attention to the fact that a boy or girl in adolescence is going through many physiological and psychological changes during the self-discovery stage, so parents must understand that, and they should not be extravagant in punishment if the son makes a mistake, but must be understood, approved and contained.
Al-Kindi explained that there is a wrong understanding of the rights and duties of the two parties in some cases, and here the importance of the General Department for Human Rights in Dubai Police emerges, which is responsible for converging views, raising awareness of these aspects, and trying to contain the two parties, stressing that the cases that dealt with it have succeeded, especially since The Social Support Department is responsible for following up the case until it is satisfied that it is stable.
She added that, on the other hand, there are children who resort to the police to report their families as a result of a misunderstanding of the law, as they are keen to obtain their rights without considering their duties, such as an Asian teenager who insulted her father, and reported that he does not provide her with all her needs, while the law obliges him to spend on her. Regardless of her behaviors with him.
Fathers and Daughters
The head of the social support department in the Women and Child Protection Department in Dubai Police, Fatima Al-Kindi said that there are cases in which parents fall victim to the recklessness of their children, or their lack of understanding of the law, noting that a Gulf girl accused her father of dealing with her cruelly, and submitted a report to the police requesting the status of End his actions with her.
Al-Kindi added that “the girl returned home with her father, to continue living under him, and get from him her expenses and her needs.
However, she did not waive the communication that she submitted against him, considering that his obligations towards her are part of her legal right, and that she will obtain it by force of law if he refuses to present it to her.
Al-Kindi added that «there is another teenager who has acted in a relatively delinquent manner on social media, such as publishing pictures that are not acceptable for her age.
When her father tried to direct her, she assaulted him, as well as exceeded her mother's right, prompting the father to think about returning her with her mother and sister to their country.
When discussing this, she replied that the law prohibits him from doing so, and that this is not his right.
The absence of dialogue between parents and children, especially in adolescence, exacerbates simple problems.
Parents who are keen to raise their children in a normal way, will not suffer when they reach adolescence.
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