THE SEX QUESTION - My girlfriend wants to have sex standing up but I don't like it that much

It is a physical exercise to which Victor would not really like to submit: the companion of this listener from Europe 1 asks him to make love standing up.

But due to the limited practicality of this position, he would like to stop using it.

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Victor's question

"It's been a few times that my girlfriend has asked me to make love to her standing up. It was very exciting at first, but it's still very physical and impractical. Do I always have to give in to her desire or tell her I don't like it that much anymore? "

Catherine Blanc's response

"It's a position that suggests it's something unforeseen. We corner someone, we force them, we play emergency, we play 'I want you so much that I I can't take the time to undress or put me in a bed. 'There is something about the savagery and the urgency to testify to your desire. We hold it against a wall, we lifts up her skirt and, quickly, even when badly done, we make love to him. Except that for him, it's a little more complicated. In fact, it works very well in the movies but it's a bit more complicated in the real world.

Should Victor force himself to this position?

We're not going to invite him to go to a gym!

What does not need to be is that there is concern.

She wants, we have fun, we put a step if necessary.

It's mechanically complicated, even if it's very glamorous.

In reality, there are men who have an erection to the right or to the left.

So you have to know which side you are 'leaning' on to know which way to go.

It is not very easy.

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There are of course simpler positions.

Standing, facing, it is not physiological.

Standing with your back is something else.

But in this case, his companion is not necessarily in the desire that it be done otherwise than like that.

It also begs the question of 'why I absolutely want a position that doesn't work'.

If it's to get some idea that the other is Hulk and my partner lifts me up like a feather, that doesn't work.

So maybe you need a step or support to help a little.

Before that, we laugh about it.

In reality, we try, we have fun and then we end up lying on the ground because we don't need a bed.

You don't have to stay upright either.

It can end completely slumped on the ground, at the foot of this wall where he had to play this je ne sais quoi.

Sexuality must remain a game and it is not a dictatorship of one sex over the other, no more masculine over feminine than feminine over masculine.

What does this systematic misunderstanding mean?

This is where we ask the question 'do I not want to do precisely what does not work to make it obvious that a relationship is impossible?'

It will suit her to think that he is not up to the task, who does not meet her needs, wants, etc., but she will have managed to choose exactly what is inappropriate between them.

The interlocking of the bodies obliges to take into account the reality of the physical of each one.

With a very large and a very small, there are things that are not necessarily very comfortable.

We can see that there are things that are opportune.

We try, we laugh, we find that frankly, in the films they make fun of us because they make us believe that everything works very well.

In the films, the woman is pressed against a wall and not only does the man manage to penetrate her, but the following sequence shows the pregnant woman.

No, that's not how it works!

This is all fiction.

We dream of these things which are quick bridges that we have between one moment and another.

The reality is quite different and it is not a drama.

It is neither a whim to which one submits, nor on the contrary another dictatorship which would mean 'doll, come back to this bed'. "