Testimonies from Lebanon .. Unemployment ignites marital disputes and exacerbates divorce

The husband's unemployment problem threatens the stability of many families and the continuation of the marital relationship, and even if the wife also works, or if there is another source of income, how can a man coexist with sitting idle without work at home?

And to what extent does this affect the relationship between spouses?

In short, unemployment leads to family disintegration, increased marital disputes, and turns marital life into an unbearable hell.

Husbands and wives talked about the painful reality they are living in. How dangerous is this disaster that affects most Arab homes, especially in Lebanon?

Unemployment caused a divorce between us

Afaf Itani, one of the wives who lived with an unemployed husband before the Corona crisis, and about the impact of that on her relationship with her husband - especially since she was still a new bride - says, "At first I accepted the matter, and I was optimistic about finding another job for my husband, especially since I worked for a company Construction".

Unfortunately, with the onset of the home quarantine crisis, I was dismissed from work as well - Afaf says - “My husband became nervous and revolted for trivial reasons. My expression, and that I did not mean that, and I was asking myself if I guilty of his right. "

"Despite the pain and fatigue that I feel now, because marital disputes have reached a climax to the point of divorce between us, it has changed a lot in his treatment of me, and I felt afraid of him, and I no longer trusted him, and life turned into a nightmare, and the disagreements knew their way to us to the point that we decided to separate, and this What really happened. "

Ahmed Ghosn and Afaf Itani have no choice but to divorce, despite the love that united them (Al-Jazeera)

I had no other choice but to divorce

Ahmed Ghosn (Afaf's husband) expresses his despair and lack of resourcefulness in front of this situation, describing unemployment as the most severe disability that afflicts a man, as he loses his sense of self and his ability to control his life.

He tells Al-Jazeera Net, "I became nervous against my will, and I was no longer able to control my behavior even though I realized that I was not right; but the repeated failure of my attempts to find a job, and my feeling that I was a heavy burden on my wife was losing me control of myself."

Ghosn confirms that what he feared most at the time was to continue for a long time sitting at home, describing that situation as like living on the margins of life, as he had no choice but to divorce. Despite the great love that united them, the force majeure was the one that dominated and led To destroy the marital relationship.

Despite the great love between Ahmed and Afaf, force majeure led to the destruction of their marital relationship (Pixels)

He regained optimism and made up for his wife what she had lost and more

Ammar Amhaz believes that it is natural for a person to wish to live in employment and family stability, except that sometimes "the winds come with something that the ships do not desire." After losing his work, he felt a sense of inferiority, and he often felt lamented about his condition, especially if he saw his friends preparing to go to their work, which is Accompanied by them.

Ammar's psychological state deteriorated due to the many requirements.

But his wife - who will never forget her courageous position with him, as he says - supported him in his ordeal, and how much she tried to relieve him, until she sold all her gold;

For his spending on the necessary needs, and after a year and a half in this case, he was surprised one day with a call from a company asking him to attend for a personal interview, and thank God, God blessed him with a good job that is no less than his previous work, so he regained a life of optimism, and compensated his wife for what he lost and more.

Ammar Amhaz regained a life of optimism and made up for his wife Yasmine for what she lost and more (Al Jazeera)

I helped him courageously overcome the crisis

Yasmin Amhaz (Ammar's wife) says, "If the husband is unemployed, and he does not want to work, then this is something else, and I do not think that a man accepts himself to take his money from his wife, and if it happens, there is something wrong, especially if the wife is satisfied with the situation, so the husband's work represents a material and valuable foundation. Morale should not be underestimated for the wife, and when he gives up his role, his character will be very weak. "

Yasmine asserts that it is not possible to predict the negative consequences that may result from such a case.

Yasmine dealt with her husband in this case very cautiously so that it would not be one of the causes of the increase in depression and introversion, which any person suffers when losing work, and asked her husband not to give in to reality, and she participated with him in solving his problems, and helped him to overcome this crisis with courage, and Praise be to God, there has not been any family break-up or bad relationship between us, and now he is working in another field, defying all the difficult economic, social and health conditions, "Yasmine says.

Faten Zain: Spouses are not passers-by with each other's lives.

It is a small community unit (the island)

Unemployment causes mental and physical illnesses as well

Clinical psychologist Faten Zeineldin says that unemployment has bad effects on mental health, and that many wives say "eat bread and olive groves."

But what happens if you are unable to buy that bread and olive grove due to a lack of job opportunities?

It is "unemployment".

Unemployment has a lengthy definition in terms of its types and effects.

But with regard to the marital relationship, unemployment has devastating effects that go beyond the occurrence of divorce, according to Faten.

Faten added that when an individual loses his job, he will be affected psychologically by his feeling of frustration and failure, and the longer the period lasts, he becomes vulnerable to despair and depression, as he is often aggressive, violent, irritable, and tends to isolation and loneliness.

And here we must mention - Faten adds - that the lack of self-esteem that the individual feels as a result of unemployment may lead to deviation, addiction, or suicide and even death as a result of psychological and physical illnesses, hence the analogy of work with the wheel of life.

Unfortunately, this is what happened recently in Lebanon, where some committed suicide because of intolerance of poverty and staying without work, according to Faten, a psychologist.

And she affirms that "it must be stressed that the two partners when the ways of life are tight in front of them should not be a factor of pressure on the other party, if the wife knew - for example - that the man who used to enter his house carrying the needs of the house and the family that he felt himself a king, and he is now He feels despised for himself if he falls short, when I pressured him. "

Faten believes that unemployment may create permanent disagreements and disrespect between spouses and a feeling of inferiority, which pushes the husband to search for his self-worth and flee from his reality that he rejects, and perhaps the wife's betrayal of her husband.

Because she believes that he is "not a man," meaning that she focuses on his shortcomings, and perhaps divorce as a result of unemployment.

Unemployment has devastating effects on spouses that go beyond divorce according to psychology (Pixels)

A mini community unit

Specialist Faten wishes the couple to be aware, patient and patient.

Because "together sweet and bitter" are not two words that both parties repeat only during the marriage contract, they are a reality. Life bears all feelings and circumstances, and despite its harshness or sweetness, it is real tests that life offers to both parties.

Let each of them remember - Faten says - that he is a bond for the other, and he should not accept that it be the cause of his death, for each of us needs moral support through the basic relationships in our lives, so you are not passersby in the lives of each other.

Rather, you are a mini community unit, whenever it is robust, you produce a solid society.