No commitment, no sex, only a good night's sleep. More and more young people from 20 to 30 years old, single people who like to sleep in good company, have a "dodo plan", or sleeping partner. Monday, in the show Without appointment, the sexologist Catherine Blanc explains this new trend.
Chloé's question
I hear people talking about "dodo plans" around me, but I don't understand what it can bring. What do you think ?
Catherine Blanc's response
As some have "sex plans", people that we meet solely for the purpose of sexuality, more and more young people find "dodo plans". This shows the difficulty people have in maintaining social bonds, in lavishing or receiving tenderness, even in a friendly relationship. When we are friends, we don't often sleep together, but we can cuddle!
This also shows a difficulty of empowerment. Not being able to sleep alone is very childish. It is as if, by dint of having consumed sexuality of the pornographic type, this one had been reduced to an exercise of the mechanical type, dispossessed of any affective or sentimental relationship. Today, there are sentimental relationships, sexual relationships, and relationships of tenderness. We cut everything into rings.
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These dodo plans can also be a way to delay sexuality, when we need more cuddles, sweetness, to feel protected by someone who will not touch us ... While sharing the intimacy that is sleep. But a "dodo plan" is also not comparable to the intimacy of an old couple for example, who would sleep together without having sex. Old couples still cuddle, they are connected by past erotic stories that nourish their relationship. There, there is nothing of all that.
Some nevertheless find their account there. You just have to make sure that the two people are on the same wavelength. Sometimes, desire arises in one, not because he programmed it, but by dint of sharing this intimacy.