Some habits underestimate our appreciation and self-esteem, and these habits often take hold in a person from childhood, especially among those who grew up in a family environment in which self-love has not been fulfilled.
Parents who do not respect themselves often pass on certain habits of their children that prevent them from loving themselves and accepting themselves. While it is difficult to change habits that have been rooted in our behavior since childhood, the way we think as adults can be changed.
In a report published by the Spanish magazine "Rincon de la Psychologia," writer Jennifer Delgado Suarez said, "Realizing these habits represents the first step towards getting rid of them and developing self-esteem." What habits destroy self-esteem?
1. The belief that you are an unqualified person
It is necessary for a person to listen to himself. What do you say to yourself? Do you often tell her that you do not deserve anything and that you do not have the necessary qualities to be a successful person?
This inner conversation, which someone may have conveyed to you, distorts your self-image and closes doors to opportunities. You should always remember that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, so it is simply about finding and developing your potential.
2. Play the victim continuously
People face difficulties in different ways, some learn from them, while others feel sorry for themselves and play the role of the victim.
But you need to know that holding others responsible for what is happening with you will not increase your self-confidence or make you feel safe, on the contrary. The situation you are in right now is the product of the decisions you made. But this does not mean blaming yourself but rather controlling your life.
3. Be perfect too much
People who aspire to achieve perfection pressure themselves a lot, and their self-esteem is usually low because they do not live up to their expectations.
And since they always aspire to idealism, this makes them feel that the tasks they do are incomplete or unsatisfactory. This way, this type of person is usually not proud of their achievement and is not encouraged.
4. Compare yourself to others
Man by nature tends to make comparisons. But we usually compare ourselves to others to highlight our faults, or our lack of security or our mistakes, and this is one of the most direct ways that leads to the destruction of our self-esteem.
If you are comparing yourself to others, avoid competition and, above all, do not compare yourself with people, but compare results and methods of work.
5. Focus on your mistakes
Some people always look back and point out the mistakes they made even when they succeeded in achieving a goal. It makes sense to make some mistakes in our lives because they are part of the process of achieving success.
To remain motivated and respect yourself, it is important that mistakes do not become the pattern by which you value your value, because in this way your attainment of your goals will decrease, thereby increasing your focus on your weaknesses, which will not make you feel comfortable.