Husbands admitted that they faced several family disputes with their wives during the period of the home quarantine imposed by the precautionary measures to limit the spread of the new Corona virus (Covid 19), as they spend long hours inside the house, which forced them to interfere in managing the affairs of the home and children, What irritated the wives as a result of different views.
Husbands, who refused to give their names, told «Emirates Today» that staying at home due to the Corona virus imposed a serious lifestyle on many families, and increased psychological pressure, as men and working wives became close to their homes, working remotely, while the children studied From a distance, which raised problems between couples, especially when mutual understanding and dialogue were absent.
They monitored the most prominent family differences that occur during the home quarantine, namely: the absence of privacy and independence, interference in the affairs of the other, the lack of space for social separation, the difference in opinion in directing children, noise and inconvenience due to work and study tasks at the same time, especially when the couple is working remotely From the house, and some husbands attempt to withdraw some of the powers of managing the house from their wives, and increase psychological pressure, especially when there is an economic situation that pressures the husband, and the absence of social separation between the spouses, and others.
For his part, the family counselor, Issa Al-Maskari, said that there are family issues that may not be clear until after contemplating their consequences or planning for obtaining satisfactory results, so that the meeting of the spouses in one house without leaving for a long period, which has negative or positive results, and that is based on According to daily practices, if the daily practices are sophisticated, the results will be amazing. As for the negative practices, you will only reap more differences and disputes from them.
He added that in light of the outbreaks of the new Corona virus and domestic stone, there are 10 high-end practical strategies for building successful and stable marital relationships during this period, the first strategy (change): “We always recommend the necessity of changing the way of life and getting rid of the killer routine. This crisis came and changed a lot of negative habits. Rather, it changed a lot of things in us. Perhaps this change is an opportunity for emotional closeness and family cohesion, and an opportunity to return to God Almighty through supplication, worship and supplication, an opportunity for accountability, structuring priorities, correcting mistakes, and sincere departure To righteousness and goodness The love known ».
The second strategy (omission), when the atmosphere is clouded with fears, stress, anxiety and negative news, there is no time to search behind the slips or lapses or follow some negative analyzes and flimsy obsessions.
The third strategy (positive), behind every ordeal of grant, and behind every failure of experiences, and behind every trial of forgiveness, mercy, light and insight, and perhaps dealing with this crisis with a positive outlook contributes to creating a safe family atmosphere, the crisis is temporary as indicated by studies, and will not last forever, Do not take this crisis as a justification for the differences and disputes.
The fourth strategy (optimism), whatever the conditions, always the thorns in the beginning and the flowers in the end, and the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, loved the omen, orders the omen, and urges his companions to this generous quality.
And the fifth strategy (meditation). Reflecting on the conditions of others and divorce rates during this period, he discovers that the cases are almost non-existent, due to the difficulties and obstacles towards him, because the path to separation is blocked, and the doors to divorce are closed. Perhaps this decision eased marital disputes, or moved aspects Mercy between the spouses, or push the spouses to think of other solutions in order to get rid of the conflicts and problems. In light of the crisis of the new Corona virus, this crisis has become the first concern more than any other family or social problems.
The sixth strategy (privacy), does not mean domestic stone interfering in the privacy of the other party, and perhaps this negative intervention ignites the fire of old and sterile differences, so give the other party a space of privacy, so that he feels autonomy and freedom in movement, speaking and dealing.
The seventh strategy (convergence), as there is physical affinity and hearts are familiar and others may be incompatible, as there are emotional closeness and bodies are far apart, such as if the husband is in one region and the wife is in another region, if there is a barrier between them, so the most beautiful cases if the physical proximity, such as the couple’s sense of security, safety and housing With emotional closeness, i.e. heart, with affection, love and mercy, and there are those who take this family proximity as an opportunity to tame and raise oneself, and family gathering on the tables of science, righteousness and worship, the physical proximity is not expressed by suffocation, repulsion and difference, but rather expresses love, affection and harmony.
The Eighth Strategy (Beautification), it is preferable for marital relationships in this ordeal to be embodied in abandoning disputes, disputes, sterile arguments and negative behaviors, as well as sweetening as a process for beautifying relationships, decorating ties with good word, good treatment, meaningful dialogue, offering sacrifices, and working together for a safe environment Classy and harmonious, embracing all its moral or sensual vocabulary, such as perfume, taste, color and romance.
The ninth strategy (patience), I do not give Abdul Khasla the most beautiful, best and greatest of patience, and the patient about this crisis has a martyr's reward, and the one who has patience for the calamities is not a reward except Paradise.
The last strategy (supplication), if the doors of the earth are closed, then the doors of heaven are always open, so multiply the supplication to God by supplication.
10 strategies
The need to change lifestyle.
Overlooked and not looking behind slips.
Dealing with the crisis with a positive outlook.
- Optimism, whatever the circumstances.
Meditation on the condition of others.
Give the other party privacy.
Physical and cardiac closeness.
Abandon disputes and controversy.
Patience for this crisis.
- Supplication to God with supplication.
Staying at home has imposed a new lifestyle on many families and increased psychological stress.