The announcement of a deconfinement from May 11 by Emmanuel Macron has raised many questions among the French. And all aspects of life are concerned, including sexuality. This is the case of Gwen, who apprehends that her future romantic encounters may transmit the coronavirus to her. In "Sans Rendez-vous" on Europe 1, sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc tries to reassure him.
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Gwen's question, 30
"Since the announcement of the deconfinement, I am afraid to meet new people, to kiss my partner, and even to touch him. In fact, I have the impression of being faced with a giant STD, without any way to protect myself. I'm afraid it will affect my sex life. What should I do? "
Catherine Blanc's response
"We are not all of an expansive nature, and the idea of the other is for some anxiety-provoking, in particular sexuality. For Gwen, the deconfinement almost amounts to setting out again in the world, reaffirming its specificities, its personal impetus, with the idea of censorship or punishment: infection. Yesterday it would have been an STD, but today it is the Covid-19 which will testify to a closeness, an exchanged kiss, or of a sexuality.
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Suddenly there is the feeling of not being able to protect oneself from one's own desire, and from the guilt which is linked to it. It is a story that takes place between oneself and oneself, forged by the idea that one has of his personal impetus, his confrontation with our education, and the censures that have been posed. Leaving again in the affirmation of this desire is therefore experienced as anxiety-provoking.
Do you think we are going to arrive at a stage or before kissing we will have to show that we did a Covid-19 test?
No, I do not think so. But all those who have a worried psychic field on this side will tend to look for evidence, even if there is none. It's a bit like in love, when we seek the certainty that the other loves us. Illness is used as a pretext to ask the other to be absolutely out of danger and to offer an answer to his own need. There is always something paranoid in us, and the coronavirus offers the possibility of legitimately asserted fear.
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What can Gwen do to overcome her fear once deconfigured?
First of all, to question one's concern for not doing everything and anything, to go headlong on the networks, and respond to the desire of others. That he lets himself be guided by his is the best way not to live the other with a body dangerous for him. "