Confined with his wife and four children, Arnaud explains that he does not succeed in having sex with his wife. Friday, in "Without appointment", the psychologist Catherine Blanc considers that it is imperative, in this period of confinement, to set a frame for the children to allow time for two.

Containment has changed habits within the home. So that for some parents, busy with work and children, it is difficult to find themselves to share a moment for two under the duvet. This is the case of Arnaud, who confides that he has not had sex with his wife since the start of confinement. Friday, in Without appointment, the sexologist and psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc gave her his advice.

Arnaud's question, 36 years old

Since the start of confinement, my wife and I can no longer have sex, telework and our four children mobilize us 24 hours a day, what to do?

Catherine Blanc's response

The question here is "how to keep a couple's intimacy?" In normal times, there is a diversity of actions, distance from others and especially for the couple, and time is always difficult to find to have this momentum and this desire. In confinement, there is less distance and less way to go, so we don't know why sexuality would bring us even closer. It can even become anxiety-provoking when you need to get some fresh air.

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Confinement must be an additional reason for putting a frame in the children so that it is not them which make the life of the parents. It is not according to their goodwill to get up and go to bed, you have to be able to reframe that in delicacy. Not just because we want to make love, but to have a space for exchange.

" Let's meet for a nap in each other's arms, or for a nasty nap "

Parents are often separated by their role as parents, each taking care of the children in turn. Children then become the reason for their absence of sexuality. But they don't have to be the agents of distance, and it's up to parents to make sure they aren't. However, to always want to put our children at the center of our happiness and our achievement, we forget the couple relationship.

For their own health, let them take a nap; and for our health, we meet to take a nap in each other's arms, or for a naughty nap.

We do not have to go to a goal defined by the male goal that would be ejaculation. We can also say that we are telling ourselves a piece of history and that the other end of the story will be the next day for an outcome that can stretch over time. Instead of being the slave of time, we play time for ourselves and our pleasure, according to our mood of the moment.