>> How to explain erection problems when the desire for his or her partner is present? In the program Sans Rendez-Vous, on Europe 1, a listener questions his erection problems which arise only when his partner really pleases him. According to sexologist Catherine Blanc, this is more linked to a psychological blockage than to a mechanical problem.
Benjamin's question, 27
When I have "evening blows", everything goes well sexually, but as soon as I meet a girl who I really like, I can't get an erection. I would like your opinion.
Catherine Blanc's response
"There is a kind of split between sexuality for sexuality, ignoring the other in emotional terms; and the challenges of a relationship when the other is important, and the desire, the love and the attention of the other also become it. It would be a shame to think that sexuality is only a story of mechanics: physiologically, the mechanics can go perfectly well and get scrambled when the emotional comes get tangled up in there. This raises the question of the legitimacy that we grant ourselves, to be able to be loved and to love in return. While when the other is not important, the issues are not the same.
It is the pressure that is causing this difficulty. We must simply ask ourselves why the value of the other must suddenly lead to non-sexuality, as if this sexuality, greeted happily as part of an "evening coup", was considered to be dirty enough or disrespectful not to be able to find one's place with someone who deserves respect, love and cleanliness of ties.
This is a question that suggests that sexuality is negative in terms of sharing, that it does not tell the quality of a bond. As soon as we create importance and bond, if we are afraid of not being up to it, everything becomes tangled and we demonstrate that we can only be left, abandoned, because than not there.
The solution is not around the subject of sexuality, but around the subject of self-worth, the idea that Benjamin has of himself, and the love that one has for him. Perhaps it is necessary to look in education: what I should be, or not; what have I been, or not; have I lived up to what was expected of me; am I failing ... It is a subject around psychology in the broadest sense of the term, its construction of little boy, young man and man in love.
As for drugs for erectile dysfunction, I prefer to find springs internally. Otherwise we believe that it is thanks to the pill in question and we remain attached to the medication to be up to par. Not to mention the fact that if the young woman discovers the pill in question, she will think that it is not an erection for her, but thanks to the pill. "
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