Why do you have to search for a friend far from the communication sites

The increasing requests for friendship and the number of followers on social media will not dispense with your basic need for the true friend in your life, as the latest research has shown that social ties strengthen the immune systems and help us sleep better.

In a report in the British newspaper "The Times", writer Jenny Russell said that when the women's hour devoted to BBC Radio 4 a complete program to talk about loneliness this week, the radio received a huge number of messages on the subject.

Retired students, students, care providers, workers in new jobs in new cities, and mothers working with friends, husbands, children, and siblings participated in the program, and the number of those who admitted feeling very anxious or lonely was tremendous, as some of them had many friends on the communication sites but they were real life alone.

Most of the program's participants felt ashamed and embarrassed about admitting something they missed in their lives, and such a deficit or need they should be able to ignore.

Not a luxury
Participants were expressing their need for one of the basic necessities for a satisfying healthy life, which is strong social ties.

In this regard, American journalist Lydia Dinworth highlighted the latest research on the importance of these links in her new book, "Friendship."

Biologists interviewed by Dinworth discovered that friendship was important for survival even among monkeys, as scientists expected that the duration of the animals that gave birth to the largest number of children would be longer compared to others, but that applied to animals that interacted better and more regularly with other animals. Therefore, friendship is not an indispensable luxury.

If you don't have friends, create a new friendship by joining clubs and walking groups, talking to strangers and telling your neighbors that you need them, the writer added. In fact, these basic connections are the starting point for forming new social connections.

However, these attempts are nevertheless merely social interactions, as it is unlikely that a person will develop an intimate friendship after spending time with the walking group.

You can not find friendships easily, you have to create them, but we rarely learn how to do this. For this reason, writer and speaker Shasta Nelson recommends a different approach.

The writer mentioned that Nelson 's book called "Freentimacy" is a great analysis of how we make friends, as we easily ignore our friends and expect that we deserve better friends than them, or that we are able to find better friends.

Sometimes friendships become boring, or they end because of changing places of work. We may not try to develop the friendships we possess and do not study the reason for our frustration with one another.

Strong friendships
Therefore, Nelson 's book is a guide to building new friendships and developing old friendships. Most of us do not need more friendships but strong friendships.

Our friends are not the people we like, but we have the time and desire to develop our relationship with them, and positivity is the foundation of friendships. To develop it, you need to align and deal with simple things first, then complex, and show your weaknesses. But showing your weakness is a mutual openness to views, support and understanding of each other's flaws, advantages, problems, and successes.

The writer concluded that many bonds with others will reach a natural point where they stop developing.

But this is a good thing, because we need only a small number of close friends, and not a number of people who contribute to increasing our sense of loneliness.