The birth of a new child changes the family, and the practices of its members, such as hopes and body and the desire to control as well as prejudices, habits, emotions and reactions.
What if the period of pregnancy was more than nine months? What if the birth was not the end of pregnancy troubles? What if there is a "fourth trimester" after the birth?
What is the concept of the fourth triple?
The fourth triple is a concept that includes the time for the adaptation of the three main actors after birth, that is, the mother, father and child, however, each party passes a relatively long period between three and four months to adapt physically and psychologically to this new life, according to writer Nadine Dishino in a report published by the channel website Canal in Canadian.
Each family should adapt to the new life style after the birth of the child, take rest periods, and listen to each other in the family to help each other. Thus, the mother, father and child pass through the postpartum period more calmly during the first months as a period New for everyone.
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The concept of continuity
It is noteworthy that the fourth trio - also known as the "concept of continuity" - was formulated by the American psychiatrist Jane Lidov in 1975 in her book "The Concept of Continuity ... The Search for Lost Happiness". For her, the rapprochement between the mother and the child needs to continue after birth , And it is necessary that this transition process - that is, from pregnancy to birth - be done well with the importance of observing each individual's condition.
Jane Lidov also confirmed after several researches that the infant desperately needs to be surrounded by his mother in order to be confident of his new world, and with time he will separate himself from his mother after he senses his self-confidence, meaning that the infant enters directly after his birth into a relationship of rapprochement with his mother, and the rope of connection Between them is lactation.
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Fourth triple period for the mother
The mother is the focus of her fourth trimester period. During her nine-month pregnancy, she notices changes in her body to adapt to her pregnancy with a child preparing to enter this world.
After her birth, her body is subject to new changes again, as her body begins to produce breast milk, and her womb will return to its normal state, as her breasts continue to change, her stomach changes, and other physical changes occur, not to mention hormone disturbance, and it is undeniable that this stage is really difficult.
Women also experience psychological disorders that cannot be avoided, and even the most prepared mothers cannot know how to get past their first meeting with their newborn babies, the first weeks may be completely different from what the mother imagined or planned, and the new mother may tend to want to do everything during Maternity “leave”, or her desire to return to her routine life before her new baby comes.
Adapting the mother to her new reality requires a lot of sacrifices, in addition to her feeling tired, suspicious, unable to sleep, frequent treatment, feeding and feeding the child, and family adjustment.
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The fourth triple period for the father
For men, the postpartum stage is often the start of a true parenting adventure, but the emotional distress they experience is very similar to what women experience, as some men may experience postpartum depression in their wife.
But parents, unlike mothers, may find it difficult to express how strongly they feel, as they try to control their impressions and dissatisfaction. This means, for example, that they believe it is not normal to express their overwhelming joy with the new baby or their feeling of fatigue or fatigue, for example.
| In turn, the new baby is going through an adjustment period, as it moves from its life inside its mother’s womb to a world full of sounds and lights (Bixaby) |
The third triple period for the infant
The new baby also goes through a period of adaptation, that is, he moves from his life inside the womb of his mother in a narrow, dark and warm water environment without having to do anything to meet his needs to another life outside this narrow world inside his mother’s womb, i.e. another world full of sounds and lights, where communication is no longer With his mother, it is constant, and he must move to get what he wants, such as breastfeeding.