Recent studies are looking for the most common causes for which husbands disagree, and it is surprising that although the causes of the dispute are familiar to husbands, friends, family, co-workers and, of course, psychiatric and family therapists it has not been sufficiently addressed.

Likewise, psychologists have not systematically researched issues that husbands disagree about, nor have they developed a standardized method for assessing disagreement, but it is important that you have a means of identifying more complex disputes and how controversial conflicts affect marital relationships, according to author Grant Hillary Brenner in a report published in the magazine. American Psychology Today.

And when separation is not an option to avoid problems between the spouses, what are the best ways to deal with the conflict to achieve satisfaction between them?

The features of relationships are subject to change
According to recent polls conducted by the Pew Research Center in the United States, it was found that the institution of marriage has become less common, and that divorces continue to rise, while fertility rates decline to transform the essential features of the marriage that we have long experienced.

People have become more reluctant with regard to the decision to marry, and respondents often expressed their desire to marry, and the reasons they provided for not marry are financial or professional instability and unwillingness to commit, or hesitation to choose the right person.

Understanding the nature of the differences in detail is very important in view of the high rates of divorce, marital infidelity, the potential for dissatisfaction with the relationship, the increase in rates of abuse and family violence, and the negative repercussions on children and society.

Given the reluctance of people to make the decision to marry, obtaining details of the causes of disputes and dealing with them before taking the decisive step would make marriage decline to become an unlikely possibility.

And if you can't stand the pressure to explore each other's personalities before marriage, not to mention conflicts that arise against the background of planning weddings, a rush to a commitment that has not been fully prepared is not recommended.

Not showing enough love and affection is enough to ignite differences between spouses (Getty Images)

The structure of marital conflict
To clarify the shape of the difference between the spouses, the researcher Lopez and his colleagues developed a study that includes three stages. In the first stage, the researchers brought in dozens of participants to investigate all the reasons that could be the reason for the outbreak of spouses differences, where the preliminary data showed 83 different reasons for the occurrence of differences between spouses.

Through various statistical techniques, the researchers divided this list into small groups that include the most prominent elements, and there were 30 elements to cover all causes of differences according to the standard of differences in romantic relationships:

  • Not showing enough love and affection.
  • Absence of communication.
  • The failure of one party to give adequate attention to the other party.
  • Failure to obtain the required grade.
  • Feelings.
  • Jealousy.
  • Talk to your ex-wife or ex-wife.
  • Love of ownership and control.
  • Old relationships.
  • Spend more time with friends.
  • Home Administration.
  • Homeworks.
  • Who carries a greater burden of work.
  • Disappearance when a party is required.
  • Sharing responsibilities.
  • The difference over the time of intimate relationships.
  • The frequency of marital cohabitation.
  • Marital relations.
  • Tell private information about the relationship to others.
  • In-laws and genealogies.
  • Who is the head of the family?
  • Who controls matters?
  • Who has control over matters?
  • Clothing.
  • Debt.
  • Life goals.
  • future plans.
  • children.
  • Who should pay for something?
  • One party exploits all the other party's money.

    • Home Based Business and Responsibilities One of the major differences of husbands (Getty Images)

    The differences are in six groups
    These 30 differences were in turn grouped into six major groups:

  • Not getting enough attention or affection.
  • Jealousy and marital infidelity.
  • Home business and responsibilities.
  • Sex.
  • Control and control over things.
  • Future plans and financial matters.

    • Differences in romantic relationships
    The researchers tested newlyweds according to the criterion of differences in romantic relationships in the first periods of marriage and a few years after marriage.

    In the first stage, the researchers recruited 214 people during the first year of their marriage, and most wives were between 18 and 36 years old, and 41 years old for men. They used the criterion of differences in romantic relationships, mentioned demographic factors, and completed measures of relationship and contentment.

    As for the second stage - and since 138 people from the original group answered the survey - the results were completed after three years.

    Statistical analysis showed that the criterion of differences in romantic relationships proved effective by estimating the rates of marital disagreement, and that the issues identified by husbands were consistent over time, just as the frequency of different types of disputes between the two parties was.

    Control and control of matters, one of the marital differences (Getty Images)

    The future of differences
    Despite the need for continuous research work in this regard to verify the criterion of differences in romantic relationships with a greater variety of husbands and stages and length of relationship, this standard is a clear and explicit road map that couples, therapists and researchers can use to obtain a better understanding of this important issue.

    Knowing how successful husbands deal with all the six areas mentioned above, as well as most of the reasons for the difference that may arise specifically would give couples who struggle to build more satisfying relationships to both parties a comprehensive and in-depth view.