Just alive 100 Ten November 29 16:26

"There are parents and children saved by your TEL"
This poster was used in PR for abuse prevention from November to 3 years ago.
Why do we need to save parents even though the victims of abuse are children?
The poster is a “unit” of doctors and nurses.
The two believe that support for their parents is indispensable in cases where a parent who has been struggling with child-rearing has hurt their child.
That's why he draws illustrations that resonate with both parents and children, and appeals to them, "I want you to seek help from others, which will help me get out of pain."
One of the titles is "100 cents so alive today"
I heard the thoughts in the pictures and messages.
(Reporter Aida Noda, Network Press)

I want you to become a society where child-rearing is difficult

One day, a video on the internet for about two minutes caught my eyes.
The video is composed of unique touch illustrations, such as those drawn by children.

The video starts with this throw.
"A family is a treasure really a treasure?"

And it continues:
“There are children who are hard to thank the family.”

In school classes, you may be asked to ask your parents about the origin of your name, summarize what you like about your family, and write “thank you” letters to your family as homework.

The video shows a child returning home from school with a heavy gait.

"I don't want to go home today, how about mom?"
Violence is always happening in this child's house.
Children are beaten by their mothers.
Mother's eyes are lifted and the child is crying.
"Mom doesn't need me"
I am a “don't need child”.
I will look down if I can't hear the origin of the name.

And again, the scene where the mother is scolding the child.
A little different from the previous one.
The mother exclaims, saying, “I should have been good” with tears.

Finally the day of homework announcement.
The child is depressed that “I ca n’t say thank you alone.

However, at the end of the video, the little bear gently calls out to the troubled child, “You can talk about troubles”.

He also tells parents who have hurt their children that there is a place where they can consult.

In addition, a message from the author is attached to the SNS where this video is posted.
“I want to be a society where child-rearing is difficult.”

Going to see "Purus Aruha"

The video was produced by the NPO “Purusaruha”, an NPO that provides support for children whose parents are suffering from depression and parents who are struggling with child-rearing.

The “Unit” was formed mainly by Yoko Kitano, a doctor who supported children and parents at the mental health center in Saitama City, and Chiaki Hosoo (Chiaki), a nurse.

The reason for the formation was that children who lived with their parents who were depressed or lost the ability to raise children needed more social support.

We are also sending messages to parents who are unable to maintain their balance, hurt their children, or who are unable to raise their children as they wish, and want to stay close to their feelings.

Chiaki-san creates the pictures and sentences.
He taught his thoughts on videos with a soft Kansai dialect.

Chiaki “Mother and child are wrapped in a lot of tears. The mother who scrambles is also painful and crying. The mother doesn't want to talk too much. Parenting is difficult. I have a feeling of helping someone. "

The picture book made for children also depicts children whose parents are in poor physical condition and can no longer be fully bitten or hurt.

The complicated feelings that worries about such parents and blame themselves are also depicted.

These picture books are placed in the health room of elementary and junior high schools in the form of donations from volunteers.

To date, approximately 600 books have been delivered to elementary and junior high schools nationwide.

There is an aim that children who visited the health room would like to see this picture book, notice the situation where they were placed, and appeal for their pain.

And adults want to use this picture book as a learning material to learn how to get close to and support the feelings of children who can't talk to anyone.

you're not alone

On the other hand, we continue to send messages to parents through a website called “Child Information Station” and SNS.

There is a message that you want to convey the most during the creation of Chiaki-san.
That means "I'm not alone".
This is because there are many cases where the environment changes drastically after mothers give birth, and there is a lot of isolation that makes child-rearing difficult.
I want to tell you that there are many others who have the same suffering.

And "It's not your fault".
Receiving and affirming the hardships of their parents, it is "not your fault" that hurts them, so they are calling on someone to talk and support.

Chiaki "It's important to be able to talk. Someone cares about you. It may be someone you haven't met yet, but someone cares about you and supports you as a companion. If you can't solve it alone, you can solve it with someone. ''

“Loose child care”

In the “Purusaruha” site, there is a page called “Yuruyuru Child Raising” with many messages for mothers.
In the past, I faced many suffering feelings of mothers as I faced many children and parents and received consultations.

One of them is “How to interact with mom friends”.
When picking up a nursery school or kindergarten, all the “mom friends” around them make up beautifully, and they look beautiful and shiny.
If you ask, it seems that the children in such a house are doing various lessons.

On the other hand, I cannot afford to make up, and always wear the same shirt and jeans.
It depicts the dark heart of a mother who just compares herself with others.
Next to that is a message from Chiaki.

“Do n’t worry, let ’s keep up with your mom friends at your own pace. It ’s important to learn and pick up at your child ’s pace.”

Mr. Chiaki “Because it's harder than it is. It ’s harder, just picking up the nursery school, you ca n’t be bothered by your self-dressing, and you ’ll hear that you ’re feeling down.” No, no. I want to tell you that you are at your pace. ''

Some works were born from conversations with mothers.
That is the “chat book”.

For conversations with "Mom friends", "small topics" of the story are introduced according to items such as "seasonal and weather topics" and "food topics".

Chiaki "I often hear the opinion that conversations with mom friends are painful. If you are on the way home, you don't have public talk with mom friends. If I don't, I won't get any information, and I'll be isolated.

The “Dream Charge Machine” captures my heart while working with three children.
When I leave my office and pick up my child, it's always a mess, with dinner menus, checking my child's homework, and laying down to prepare for tomorrow.
"Dream charging machine" depicts the dream of being able to charge the necessary power from "physical strength", "organization in the brain", "clearance of feeling", "consulting power", "time", and "cleanup power" It is a device like this.

Mr. Chiaki “Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. If you know that you can get through it now, it ’s easier to ask for support. , I think that if you look objectively by writing out, you will see what you need. "

Isn't society so gentle?

Many messages that you can ask for help.

However, when I was interviewing my mothers, I often heard that "I don't know who I should consult with" or "I don't want to go out when I go out with my child, and I don't like going out." Listen.

There are also voices from older generations that say harsh words such as “don't say anything sweet and be patient”.

How can we fill the “social gap” felt by mothers?
When I asked Chiaki, an unexpected answer was returned.

"I wonder if they can't be buried? The aunts who have spoken out are also advising with thoughts. The moms told that they were hurt unexpectedly and wanted to leave them alone. It's natural that each opinion is there, so I think it's important for each other to know that the gap in thinking cannot be filled. "

“It ’s 100 minutes.”

This is the last piece I want to introduce.
“It ’s going to be alive today.

Chiaki “Moms are very dry to themselves. So, I drew with the idea of ​​reversal. I ’m 100 now because I ’m alive. I ’m 100 when I ’m alive. It's okay to be 100. I'm alive 100, I'm alive and I'm 200. I have another kid 300. There's nothing below 100. There were various things today, but a futon. It ’s in, and it ’s okay to give 100, ”

Even though I can reflect on it every day, the important thing is that I can spend my day well without hurting my parents and children and go to sleep for tomorrow.
If I thought so, I felt I could raise my child with a little smile.