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Have a highly developed libido, is this the sign of a pathology? This is the question that a listener asks herself who thinks she may be nymphomaniac. Catherine Blanc, sexologist, responds by explaining that nymphomania is not to be confused with an important desire for his partner.
Sylvie's question
"My partner says I'm nymphomaniac because I have a good libido, it's true that I love to make love and that I solicit a lot, but not every day. conflict between us, each pinning the other, what do you think? "
Catherine Blanc's answer
"In the male mind, a nymphomaniac is a woman who has an overflowing desire and is almost labeled as the prostitute who needs a bunch of men to satisfy her desires.This is obviously not the case at all. The nymphomaniac, which is obviously not Sylvie, is a woman who is in trouble as to her feminine identity and who needs to seek in her desire and the return of the other. This is not a state of great desire, it is a great need and a great anxiety.
Generally, when men say: 'My wife is completely nympho', it is more to boast of having a woman who loves sex. Certainly that Sylvie's companion is in trouble of desire. He is pinned all the more as she has some. If she feels desire, if she manifests it, if she still wants it, he does not have time to be at the origin of the desire that she has already stated. Of course, many men are not very comfortable with this idea. Usually, it is they who propose and the woman who dispose. They moan if necessary if she refuses.
Couples often need to pin on something to testify to their own difficulties. Since we are trying to get too far or not enough, it is because we are in trouble with ourselves and therefore in trouble in the relationship to the other. Sexuality becomes a panacea for reproaching itself.
This is the difficulty of the couple. Obviously, one is suddenly in turmoil and it can be stimulating for the other who joins him. But he can be so excited, all alone. He can meet someone who is concerned about children or work, family issues or otherwise. At this point, we zoom in but it's serious. In life, it's hard to want at the same time. The ideal love is to believe that one thinks at the same time, while desiring at the same time the same things. It is an illusion because, in fact, we would like to find the state of fusion that we had in the maternal womb where everything was happening together. But everyone has a rhythm of their own. All the magic of the relationship is that we cross each other or not. "