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Friday, in the show Sans Rendez-vous, on Europe 1, the sexologist Catherine Blanc responds to a listener who confesses that she regrets to have spoken about her sexual past at the request of his partner.
The question of Virginia, 29 years old
When we met, my boyfriend asked me to tell him about my love and sexual history: how long had I maintained this or that relationship, my most daring sexual experiences ... Today, these confidences me clutter. What do you think?
Catherine Blanc's answer
"It's not a very good idea, what we live makes sense when we live in. We are in a bedroom with the person, alone with the person with whom we live this moment, not with the whole earth or with his future partner, there are things that do not need to be in the public square. "
It can be a funny moment, too?
"The interrogation can be unpleasant or sometimes funny, the only problem is that we do not know who is asking the question, we do not know what effect it can have on him. is not evaluating herself, judging her skills and her personal experiences vis-à-vis other men that her partner has been able to attend.This may have consequences for her creativity and her proposals to her partner. whoever he is attracted to can suddenly seem too posed, too naughty, too shameless or 'slut'. "
If we had a large number of partners before, should we lie?
We must pay attention to what we say but it is a choice of each. Is it really interesting to give the number of partners that we had? If I say that I had 20 partners, with whom I felt respected, respectable, in really nice relationships, for the other side, it may seem like a huge number. He may wonder if that means that I'm cheating on my partners or leaving them quickly. You must not hide things to hide them or be ashamed of them. Unfortunately, today is one of the first things we say, from the meeting, as if to presume the erotic potential of the relationship. So, we deprive ourselves of everything we create together. It can be told occasionally, if we were hurt or if we think we have trouble to reinvest in a new relationship after a very touching adventure.
Do we often lie about past experiences?
In studies where men and women are asked how many partners they have had in the past, it is often realized that women have decreased this number while men have inflated it. Women feel that if they have had too much, they will be judged negatively. Men, they will be afraid to pass for men without experience. They also tend to count the glances or the drag as a sexual relationship, while the women, they, especially take into account the moments that they liked or during which they enjoyed.