My daughter was exploding in anger for trivial reasons and for the simplest situations, and although she began to control her emotions better after she became older, there are still situations that she does not know how to handle well.
These children are often eccentric, but they are really very sensitive, and everything affects them greatly, and parents should help them manage their emotions as much as possible.
Here are some tips to help us empathize with the stubborn child, according to the report by Lola Rovati, based on her experience with her daughter, published in the Spanish magazine "Pepes e Mas":
Consider his eyes
The first thing you need to do is maintain visual contact with your child, by going down to his level and looking into his eyes, where this is known as "active listening." This simple procedure can open the door to communication with your child, especially when you are at the same level to help them. Therefore, try to find out what makes him angry or annoyed and then seek to resolve it.
|Go down to your child's level and look into his eyes known as "active listening" (pix)|
Check his feelings
We often hurry to reprimand or make judgments when what really matters is what the child feels. So, express your sympathy for your child and accept what he says by moving your head, and put yourself in his place. Let him know that you understand his problem, and that you are constantly communicating with him about his needs.
As time went by, the writer says, I realized that my daughter's frustrations were often about us. We changed our plans every minute, creating a sense of insecurity.
So, talk to your child about what you are going to do today, tomorrow, or on the weekend, and try to keep that pattern. If there are changes, explain to him in advance, because surprise can lead to emotional crises.
Provide a supportive environment
Anger is sometimes unavoidable, and doing so is good. However, it becomes exhausted and negative when the child explodes because of any situation that mothers do not know how to treat.
There will be situations where your child may explode, but should provide a supportive and emotional environment. If he is young, try to approach him and hug him. If he is older and does not want to hug him, try to show him that you are always ready to support him and stand by him.
|Compact with young children usually works well like saying "we are going to park" (pix)|
Agreement with your child
Compact with young children usually works well. For example, say "We are going to the garden" and complete the sentence by saying "Are you OK? Okay?" To be this form of agreement.
In addition, we often avoided the explanations that we explain well many tantrums. Although children are young, there are things they can understand well. For example, we can tell them "I understand that you really want to go to the park to play. We will do what you want, but first we go to buy dinner, otherwise we will go home and there will be no food."
Breathe with your baby
Breathing is a great mechanism to reassure a child, and it can be done at any time. If you see that your child has exploded or is about to explode, look for a secluded place and help him to breathe until he calms down. That prepared for number six.
|You can distract your child from any appropriate techniques to keep him from getting angry.|
Things distracted his attention
Distracting his favorite song or counting to number ten or any other techniques can distract your child from something. In addition to breathing, these methods prevent a child's anger, crying or anger. But once the child is reassured, talk about conflict and find a solution.
Give him time
When a child has a severe anger, you should allow time for him to calm down before talking about what is bothering him. In this case, you should empathize with him and verify his emotions, but try to talk to him later at home and calm him down. After a few hours you will notice the difference.
Tickle the child and kiss him
Not all children accept this mode of play alike, but it irritates many of them. There are cases where tickles or kisses are effective. It can be a good method to distract it. Of course, you should know when to apply.
|Once you have passed the moment of the explosion, discuss your child to help them express and manage their emotions better (communication sites)|
Specify names for your child's emotions
Once you have passed the moment of an explosion, which can be tantrums, crying, anxiety crisis, or any method your child uses to express his anger, the most important thing is to name those emotions that made him react. This applies to young or older children, in words they can understand according to their age.
It will begin with the simplest feelings, such as anger, sadness, or happiness, and then add more complex feelings such as frustration and disappointment.
The goal is to empathize with, support and help the child to express and manage his emotions better, in the hope that these tips will generally help all mothers, especially those with excessively emotional children.