Non-understanding families face problems and conflicts between husbands, especially when the wife is an employee who earns a special salary or is financially able to inherit from her parents.
In this regard, a reader complains that her husband whenever his generosity met his charity to him by abuse, and that it expanded in the tender increased in parsimoniousness and distress, and despite the best of the exploits and conquers, wondering how to deal with him?
The family counselor, Issa al-Maskari, answers the marriage based on a solid, and very sublime, melting before him all the sensory material and digital accounts, and the husband who spends with love and mercy find his wife goodness and blessing and wealth, and the wife does not live up to its morals, if it contributed to the construction of the Kingdom tender beautify the house and increased The prosperity does not spoil the tender except manna and the wage is not lost except harm and the wife does not consider what is spent by mundane accounts only, there are immortal eschatological scales, the wife is part of this marital kingdom, which was built only by sacrifice, compassion, affection and charity.
This phenomenon is spread among men, honors the wife and find him only abuse, find good money and then find exploitation or underestimation, and may be an emergency depending on the financial situation experienced by the man or a permanent situation as an inherent habit or acquired personality or bad education, and not all Men on this bad creation, there are giants in the creation of great in quality and generosity.
There are four types of men, a man if honored, lavish in giving, and overflowed in generosity, and serious in the fulfillment, and more than good, and hastened to righteousness, and praise charity, and received credit to the people of credit, if I found him Vtkm it, it is the choice of people, and the most beautiful In particular, and the best of their creation, is a precious currency like gold, and a precious metal like a rare jewel, if I lack serious word and good treatment, if I ask him to borrow for you, and if I ask him the impact on himself, congratulations to the wife who God blessed this type of husbands, it should stick to it , And compete in quality, creation and generosity.
The second type, deals with the wife similarly, if honored Akramha, if you give him a response tender reciprocity, deals with them according to what they deal with, the dirham dirhams, which measures her tender balance, such as the merchant who does not give the buyer only in return.
The third, a husband does not know the virtue of his wife, and does not feel them, and if done well, and no matter how generous this generosity, take does not know the tender, ask and no one can take from him, always in need, approaching to give it, his interest is an introduction, and his relationship with His wife is a visible physical relationship, does not offend at the prohibition, and does not know the value of giving.
And the fourth applies to him saying: "If you honor the honor of his queen .. Though you honor the vile rebellion," the charity is offended by abuse, giving mockery, known as evil, and good evil, which is one of the most difficult people to deal with it must be treated with caution and firmness and intelligence, Do not benefit with the many tender may strengthen his bad qualities, but be tender as much as needed, tender as much as estimated value, dealing with this type of men is difficult, especially if the return of his wife a lot of good and tender, reduce gradually, and address the situation with patience, and should provide wisdom In the treatment, and live with him according to the advantages, each person has a positive Reducing the tender suddenly may weaken the marital relations, but the reduction in some times a kind of medicine, if she was able to substitute the tender material tender emotional well-being and beauty of treatment, the wife seizes the opportunity of advice but soft, and preaching, but wisdom reminds him of useful stories and verses and Sunnah Prophetic, reminds him of God, but affection, guide him that the most people entering Paradise who created good, and is there more beautiful than the creation of righteousness, righteousness, generosity and charity.
This phenomenon, although spread as mentioned by the wife in her home or in some circles of society, but spread because of the lack of awareness, and lack of understanding of psychological, and how to deal with each other bad.
The husband will continue to rise high degrees of quality and spending and generosity, and the good wife that obeyed her husband, and well done Paradise enter from any doors it wants.