Shaimaa Abdullah-Cairo

"I am an orphan sponsor in paradise as two, and pointed with his fingers, means the index finger and the middle," this hadith opened the Pope closed after him usages.

It is a mental image supported by the drama about the children of the embraced and sponsored family, and built huge bridges of fear for many, where the concepts of rejection to embrace children, and its impact on the future of the incubated families, and how to turn the word orphan or unknown descent into a mark does not disappear from the book of life of a child who has not committed a crime It caused no harm.

But a new initiative that resonated in Egypt is based on the return of the idea of ​​family incubation and sponsorship of orphans within the homes of families.

Differences
A clear distinction is made between adoption that Islam has forbidden and embrace and sponsorship. The concept of foster care, which has spread since the early 2000s as an alternative to adoption, was based on the child's physical sponsorship in place, and sporadic visits for psychological support.

The concept of incubation, which adopted the initiative "Incubation in Egypt" return to the return of Arab and Egyptian families in particular through the institution of the initiative Yomna Dahrouj, is based on raising the child within the family home, and ensure financially and morally and treated as a child belonging to the family, while keeping only the name His native parents and family lineage.

At the appropriate age, under psychological supervision, the incubated family explains why the name of the breeder father and mother differs from those listed in his official papers.

"Laila" volatility scales
"Leila," the girl who completed her first year, joining the family of Yomna Dahrouj was the spark of the initiative.

Since 2015, the family has considered embracing an orphan child to grow up with a family working and living in the Saudi capital of Riyadh.

The idea began with the request of the fatwa submitted by the mother incubated to the Egyptian House of Fatwa, asking about the legitimacy of the idea of ​​incubation, not adoption, and the caveats that must be followed in order not to violate the law.

The response came quickly that she should only not to write the name of the child in her name, so as not to mix genealogy and lose legitimate rights, in addition to its commitment to good education and ensure upbringing in accordance with Islamic educational standards and good treatment of the orphan.

The family was happy to respond, but traveling outside Egypt stood in the way of execution for several consecutive years, until the family settled in Egypt, and began its official steps to embrace the nighting of the baby girl, whose family died.

Her presence was a major factor in motivating a large number of families to start implementing the idea of ​​embracing, and the #Thank_Laila tag on Facebook turned into love manifestations for the girl who contributed to the embrace of others: Mahmoud, Hamza, Aser and Ahmed.

Incubation conditions
According to the Egyptian Ministry of Solidarity, there are several conditions published by the official page of the initiative, according to the Egyptian Ministry of Solidarity, to approve the embrace, whether for families, divorced women or women who have never been married.

The incubated family must have the elements of moral maturity evidenced by social research by the competent department.

It is imperative that the duration of the marriage be not less than three years, from which the person who proves his permanent infertility is exempted.

In addition, the criminal newspaper of the alternative family is free from any criminal history and is considered a prerequisite for the approval of the incubation, in addition to not more than two children of the original family, and the family is not allowed to take care of more than one child, or two brothers in the first place.

The family's place of residence and income, in addition to the time and working conditions of both parties, are among the factors influencing the approval of the incubation, in order to allow for a child-friendly environment, with the family undertaking in writing to maintain the child's proportions and attending the training course organized by the Ministry of Social Solidarity to explain the grounds for sponsorship.

The conditions published by the initiative were insufficient to respond to the flow of questions on the official page about the time to inform the child about the genealogy of the child, acceptance of schools, family and community acceptance of the foster child, and persuading the husband of the idea, as well as the treatment of the child's original family by the foster child. All the questions answered by Dahrouj in successive videos on her Facebook page to increase the reassurance of the target audience and disseminate the idea, which has already been done, with the increasing incubation and dissemination through her page.

The extended family bully
With the increased interaction with the group's idea, the Incubation Initiative moved to Kuwait, Algeria, Morocco and the UAE, not only to support foster families, but also to support incubators.Increased youth, over 18 years of age, established an Instagram group specializing in psychological support for incubators to help them overcome the psychological crises resulting from Incubation.

Messages and complaints reach the group, including those who complain about the bullying of society, and some of them cry for the bullying of the family after losing their adoptive parents, as happened with one of the girls after the death of her father and her mother on bail, only to find hatred from her family, which was reluctantly accepted in the life of her parents, and after their departure There is no longer a motive for the girl's survival, she did not find a place to go, only after she discovered that her parents had secured her future life by writing their apartment in her name so as not to return to the street after their death.

In a study conducted at the University of Mont Clare on the adoption of children and its impact on their mental health, the results showed that the age of three years later is the best time to start to inform the child gradually the story of incubation, and the longer the time the child is more likely to develop psychological problems in adulthood, and there are some cases She may be seeking ulterior motives for revenge on her adopted family after she learned of the fact that she grew up late.