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In modern life, having a partner and sleeping in the same bed is almost an unbreakable rule. It is normal, and for many, the failure to do so means that something is wrong, that love and passion have vanished. But it has not always been this way: the habit of not sharing the marital bed comes centuries ago and is not something as far-fetched as it may seem.

In fact, before the Victorian era it was common for married couples to sleep in different rooms. And in ancient Rome the bed was just a place to have sex, not to fall into the arms of Morpheus .

Snoring, the battle for the blanket and the war to occupy the bed space are part of the mutual claims after a bad night. Those who have made the decision to have their own bed describe the decision as "going to paradise . "

Numerous experts already say: sleeping in separate beds can have its benefits, physiological and emotional . Starting from not suffering from sleep disorders due to snoring of the other or involuntary movements during the night.

According to several recent studies by the National Sleep Foundation, one in four American couples already sleeps in different rooms or beds and the results are similar in countries like England or Japan.

But what is most appropriate: sleep together or separately? Sleep scholars agree that for a better rest the ideal is to sleep in different beds. The British expert Neil Stanley is one of the defenders of the separation of beds and ensures that those who sleep alone are 50% less likely to suffer a crisis in their relationship .

EACH COUPLE IS DIFFERENT

For Diana Fernández Saro, a member of the State Association of Sexology Professionals (AEPS), sleeping separately is as lawful as doing it together, but the important thing is to communicate: «Each couple has their codes in privacy, the important thing is that both express your needs and attend to those of the other. Sleeping apart is not being separated, just like lying together does not mean being together. The important thing is that the relationship is not questioned when sleeping in different beds ».

In line with this idea, Iván Eguzquiza Solís , a specialist in Behavioral Psychology at the Instituto del Sueño, points out that “physiologically, sleeping as a couple makes sleep difficult, since it generates micro-awakenings. Therefore, if we sleep as a couple, we actually do it more for emotional reasons than for comfort ».

Sleeping is one of the greatest pleasures of the human being and a necessary process - we spent an average of 25 years sleeping throughout life - and when we had a bad night it shows. The mattress company Silentnight and the University of Leeds, in the United Kingdom, conducted a survey of a group of people about the reasons why they could not sleep and 29% accused their partner of not letting them fall asleep .

It seems that "until death do us part" has become "until sleep do us part." A study published in 2007 in the journal Sleep and Biological Rhythms on the effect of sleeping as a couple on the structure of sleep and circadian rhythms revealed that women are more likely to bother with the presence of man in bed than men regarding the woman.

Another of the most frequent reasons why couples tend to sleep separately is the difference in work schedules. Dr. Meir Kryger , a sleep specialist at Gaylord Hospital in Connecticut, emphasizes that this trend is due to “that people are making their own dream a priority. If the couple is hurting each other's rest, the attitude now is that you no longer have to endure it.

Sexologist Fernández Saro says that if the decision is "desired and agreed upon" by the couple, the separation "can be beneficial and end up improving the quality of times of shared intimacy, as well as erotic encounters." "On the other hand, if sleeping apart is due to the difficulty of synchronizing intimacy time together, the couple's strength can be resentful," he adds.

It is a fact that relationships have changed in recent times. From the same way of meeting a person, romanticism, sex and now the way of sleeping, you do not have to be in a couple to continue being happy. It is not about labeling it as a fashion or a trend, but as a behavior of a society that increasingly thinks of its own well-being.

Selfish? It may be, but it is the era in which we live.

Opinions are divided on whether couples should share their bed. The important thing is to have harmonious relationships and that the passion and sexual desire is not extinguished by a snoring or a kick in the abdomen in the early morning.

"There are couples who agree on the days they sleep together," concludes the sexologist. «For example on weekends, or on vacations, by sleeping together, more than a mere rest, a desired meeting outside the obligation and monotony»

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