Why do not many people feel happy during the holiday?

Fewer than 1% of people on vacation leave with satisfaction, happiness and renewal, according to a survey conducted by a social research center in Spain in 2017. Does this apply to everyone?

The ABC newspaper in a report shows that just vacationing is not enough to enjoy it, and that many people do not know how to spend a holiday properly. Sonia Sorett, a psychiatrist and personal trainer specializing in emotional intelligence, has studied the reasons why many people are unable to feel completely happy during their holidays.

What prevents happiness?
"The mind is the first obstacle that prevents us from being happy on vacation," Sorett was quoted as saying. "The problem is precisely the beliefs that affect our happiness."

Soret believes that these beliefs are only preconceived notions about aspects of life, others and even ourselves, and that these ideas are likely to be rational at times and sometimes wrong.

It should be noted that this distinction is precisely what makes the holiday well planned by the best company and even in the best regions of the world become disastrous.

There are three beliefs that can disturb any summer vacation, no matter how well planned, you know:

Planning a trip is more fun than the trip itself
It is unfortunate that things are not going according to our holiday plan. This belief is classical in the way holidays are spent; advance planning should therefore be merely a means of guidance and inspiration in order to make the most of leisure.

On the other hand, this should not become a hard evidence that cannot be changed. The solution to this is to get used to the circumstances and look for the positive side of all unplanned events.

A study conducted by the University of Surrey revealed that people are more happy when planning a vacation than the time they spend on vacation.These people may feel more delighted when they wait for a good leave, as confirmed by another study conducted by psychologist Thomas Gilovich professor at Cornell University.

The psychologist Sonia Sorett has confirmed that the illusion that engulfs us at the time of choosing a particular destination, the moments of preparing the bag, buying tickets, and determining the places we will visit; To live adventure surprises on vacation.

Do not forget the daily concerns
Continue to be concerned about lingering daily problems. “Going on vacation means forgetting work and daily concerns, especially since the mind also travels with the body. So we should take time off to get away from the problems, and then get busy when they come back and feel renewed and relaxed,” says Sorette.

According to a study by research firm Northstar Research Partners, only 26% of travelers surveyed feel comfortable and relaxed during the holiday. We can overcome the bad habit of holding on to problems when we get used to getting away from them completely for a few days, learning how to live and enjoy the present.

The belief that happiness comes from outside
Believing that happiness is a feeling that comes from outside and not from within man Many people fall into the trap of believing that happiness depends on circumstances and on others around them.

This way of thinking makes human happiness hostage to the destination of travel, the mood of family and friends and road accidents, as well as unexpected events that may occur in the last moments, delays and conditions of hotel rooms and weather, whether good or bad, whether it is raining or the temperature is too high, and all the things that It was not planned to happen in advance. "

The best way to avoid such a trap is to feel essentially responsible for our own happiness and let others be happy in the way that suits them, even if they do not abide by the terms of the vacation plan. It is possible that the renewal and departure from the events that we planned in advance is the most appropriate option to return from the leave satisfied and happy, note that this type of people account for 0.6% of the population.

Happiness is a personal decision
Freedom from the three beliefs that we have interpreted would make the mind dispense with expectations about how to spend holidays and open up to new possibilities.

Daniel Gilbert, a professor of psychology at Harvard University in the United States, has shown that consistent happiness without ups and downs is a fantasy that has never been achieved.

"Happiness is a personal decision that we feel day by day and can change the lives of any person, especially on vacation, no matter what surprises happen," said psychiatrist Sorette.