YOUR LIFE EXPERIENCES
Christopher, 25, can not meet someone after a "match" on Tinder (a connection with a user). Since he registered on the application, last October, the young man sees his confidence in him down to not being able to seduce. He asks himself questions about the way he shows up and talks about his experience at Eve Roger's micro Europe 1.
"I broke up in December 2017 and registered on Tinder in October 2018. I signed up to find love, but I did not want to do it too soon after a breakup I'm more comfortable with the apps that the outings in bars.I also do not want to be cased by a friend because I do not want to give the impression to serve others. The advantage is that you have a time to think about it - you have to be spontaneous and instantaneous with someone.
What's difficult about dating apps, though, is that you have to sell yourself. There is a paradox: in real life, being a woman is more difficult, with problems of harassment, lower wages on average ... In dating applications, they have more power. There is also a study by a journalist, Judith Duportail, which showed that women had 50% success on Tinder and men 2%. "
For now, Christopher has not met anyone through the app.
"I did not understand why, maybe the picture and the description are not good enough, maybe I'm not attractive enough, it's true that I have less confidence in myself for a while. What is unfortunate is that the person I talk to most about Tinder is a Finn, and in our heads we have a certain level of attractiveness. It is lower than I thought before, and in the end we ask ourselves questions: are we ugly, are we clumsy?
I tried to improve my presentation. I am also inspired by my friends, who give me advice. In the evening, at a friend's house, I met someone who was also on Tinder. He had told me that he had made a picture with a beautiful landscape and a twilight behind, and a photo with a unicorn buoy, and it had pleased. It may be necessary to find photos in the air of the time. I tried to make a picture a little class in the Parc de Sceaux, with a nice view behind, but it was perhaps too serious, so it did not rain too much. We must try to reinvent ourselves. Photos with an animal can also have their effect.
It's subjective to judge yourself, but I'm a bit of a gentleman. If a woman has 5 out of 10 to her physique and a man has 5 out of 10, the woman will have more matches. If there was a guide for Tinder, even if it was very expensive, I think I would take it. "
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