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Marie, 42, married when she was young. "Social pressure", she analyzes, which made her marry a man she could not communicate with. Divorced, with two children, this forty year old found love with another person, without the constraints of permanent life under the same roof. Today, she says "serene" and does not envisage a second marriage or children with this new companion.
"It's when we meet other people that we can compare"
"Obviously, my first companion pleased me in appearance, he charmed me with his humor, but I had the impression not to choose it.I liked to be in the norm, with a kind of Social pressure that was unknown When you're 20, you do not think about it.
In a fairly traditional way, we had two children, and we did not know how to preserve our couple. We may have already been weakened from the start. There was boredom. We lived together but without really listening to each other. I was not really aware of it. It's when we meet other people that we can compare. There was an incompatibility of personalities. "
Marie divorced and is now in a relationship with another man.
"Today, the difference is above all the personality: two personalities meet and go together, and then all that we have learned since our 20 years ... Today, I feel that I know I want to choose for myself, I feel much better equipped to be with someone else, we are not mature at a certain time, and after 40 years we are a bit older! "
They see each other every other week, the week everyone has their children.
"We're lucky because we live a little part-time: we do not live under the same roof, it's also very nice, we meet every two weeks, we may want to change but for the moment, we both see advantages, I think it's healthy, we find each other, we miss each other, we want to see each other ... We each have our home, the logistics are not not heavy, the small daily tasks do not exist.This could change, because it's still nice to build something.I am rather serene, because we know what we want both.
Marie does not want any more children because she and her companion have already had children on their side.
"I am sure that you care for your couple when you do not have children in common, you have no intention of getting married, I feel like the marriage has no What is important to me is to do things together, to achieve a life together, or maybe all of life.
We know how to talk about things that are important to us and that I did not know how to do with my first husband. I did not know how to discuss with him, and he with me. There, I did not learn it, it's just the personality of one and the other. We come to discuss, we can discuss all topics, even topics that might displease. We get to distance and talk like two friends who could exchange. "
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