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For 25-year-old Lison, the attraction goes far beyond physical appearance. It is created especially when it happens to find an intellectual connection with the person who is in front of her. We are talking about sapiosexuality. A recent term that refers to people attracted by the reflection and learning of others. Lison confided in Olivier Delacroix Friday.
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"The attraction goes far beyond physical characteristics and sex for me, I am spontaneously more attracted to women than to men, because it is with some of them that I have been able to build relationships more deep and develop what is called emotional intelligence, I was able to feel alive as I had never been before.
Nevertheless, I would like to qualify my remarks, because I do not think that it is due to the gender of the person. Indeed, I was able to build a similar link with two men, the last of whom was filled with gentleness and femininity. He had characteristics that are regularly given to women in society. Even though her beauty did not transcend me, from the beginning I was charmed because of this intellectual connection. We had the same references, we came from the same social background, there was behind all that empathy, a connection, that's what I call emotional intelligence.
"I do not think I can dwell only on a person's body"
First there is the intellect, the emotional connection, but I could not be content with a relationship without physical contact. I need someone whom I judge to be true, with an incarnation, a speech, an ideal, a shared sensibility. All these things that finally make a couple and a relationship. I do not think that I can dwell only on the body of a person, it is obligatory that there is something else. Sexual attraction is one thing, but intellectual and emotional attraction is another. It is by this factor that a relationship can be lasting.
I assume that I do not like age, sex, or skin color. I do not like labels so much. What attracts me is the possibility of having a debate, what the person has in mind, but also if what the person releases touches me. The same sensitivity makes me feel closer to each other and I feel more alive. This sensitivity is very often expressed by common interests and common thinking skills. "