Delphine and her husband, who had problems with their children, had two in vitro fertilizations, which went well six years apart. She tells her experience at the microphone of Olivier Delacroix, Wednesday.

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Delphine, 39, has lived a real obstacle course: after experiencing problems to have children with her husband, this Francilienne has undergone very restrictive exams in a center of PMA [medically assisted procreation, Ed] with a fertilization in manual vitro. But with patience and thanks to a "message", she became the mother of "two beautiful children" and shows her emotion of being a mother at the microphone Europe 1 Olivier Delacroix, Wednesday.

"We had difficulties like, I think, many couples meet, that is to say after one year, a year and a half of trial, still nothing ... We start to ask questions, we'll see the gynecologist who asks us to do exams ...

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I was fortunate to have a friend whose sister was working in a PMA center, so she directed me directly to an LDC. We had an appointment soon enough, I was supported in a classic way, with an incalculable number of very restrictive exams to make. I'm pretty modest, so it was very delicate.

One day, we are offered IVF [ in vitro fertilization, Editor's note ] saying very simply that this is our last chance to have a child. It was an IVF with ICSI (intracytoplasmic sperm injection), where the biologist directly introduced the sperm into the egg. Nothing worked, so they told us it was a bit of a last chance. We tried and it worked the first time. "

As a result of this in vitro fertilization and this first pregnancy, there remained frozen embryos.

"Psychologically, I was not able to tell my husband that we used an embryo, a child that was made the same day as our son, and every year we were asked what we were going to do with the children. It was said that they wanted to keep them, but I thought they were only kept for five years.

The fifth year, I did not answer, I did not want to make the choice, it was too hard. I thought the medical team would make that choice for me. And then I started all this journey with my husband, telling us we wanted a new child and we started all over again.

" I went home and had a recommendation that asked me if I really wanted to destroy my embryos, as if it were a message "

I arrived at a center in PMA, where I was told, 'But madam, by destroying the embryos, you will destroy your last chance to be a mother. It is catastrophic, it is much worse than before, so unfortunately, I can not do anything for you. I went home and had a recommendation that asked me if I really wanted to destroy my embryos, as if it were a message. I immediately called the center to tell them to keep them. I went there, the thawing was done and I gave birth in October 2018.

What I would like to say is that we must never lose hope, that it is always possible. My son is 7 years old today, I made the cake ... Even if it's hard, we must not let go and always remain positive. Louis, it took four years to get it. I would like to say thank you to the French. In the United States, it is an exorbitant cost. There, thanks to our system, I am lucky to be the mother of two beautiful children. "

The opinion of the specialist

Dr. Véronique Bied-Damon, gynecologist and infertility specialist

"The causes of infertility are quite varied: one third of the causes are of female origin, one third are of male origin and one third of the causes are of mixed origin." In women, the main causes ovulation disorders, the tubal abnormality and endometriosis.In humans, what is clearly increasing is the oligo-asthenospermia, a decrease in the number and mobility of sperm.

This is probably due to environmental factors: we are increasingly surrounded by chemical molecules, endocrine disruptors, which will modify the production of spermatozoa in humans. In women, they are also responsible for ovulation disorders, such as polycystic ovaries or endometriosis.

As soon as the couple is in situation to conceive, it is necessary to consult to make the point. We do an assessment of the blood taken to see the hormonal profile of the woman and radios of the uterus to see the tubes. For the man, we do a spermogram. Depending on the context of the couple, we decide on a suitable treatment. The third step is in vitro fertilization, which is more reserved for the tubal problem or cases of significant damage to spermatozoa.

France allows only four tests of in vitro fertilization per couple, reimbursed by Social Security. It puts pressure on people, we feel it quite clearly. (...) Generally, after four IVF, more than 85% of patients are able to get pregnant so the cumulative rate is still good. "