[SBS Special] My child's sex outright ③
What is the correct sex education of parents for my child?
In the SBS special broadcast on the 13th, the subtitle'My child's sex is openly spoken', highlighting the correct sex education method for parents.
According to an announcement by the National Police Agency's Digital Sex Crimes Special Investigation Division in April, 94 out of 309 suspected digital sex crime arrests revealed that 58 out of 118 confirmed victims were teenagers.
And experts pointed out that the absence of sex education is increasing these youth sexual crimes.
So, how should parents living in these times do sex education for my child?
Recently, a high school attempted to educate students on how to use condoms using bananas was canceled after receiving protests from parents.
However, overseas sex education using penis-shaped parish or bananas was being conducted.
A picture book for sex education for children aged 3 and older, published in Denmark in 1971.
Parents who saw this were surprised and uncomfortable with the detailed description and explanation.
In fact, a petition to ban the distribution of this book from parents has been followed recently, and the Ministry of Leisure and Home Affairs has been collecting all the books.
What do the children think of reading this book?
The children said, "At first I was surprised, but we didn't grow up to see this, so it seems that we have a more embarrassing attitude to hide."
Another child said, "It's better organized than textbooks, so it's good for education. If we learned that from the beginning, we wouldn't be shocked."
In addition, the children said, "Fast learning doesn't seem to be a bad thing. If you learn early, it seems that you will have the importance of sex."
The expert said, "The reason parents feel uncomfortable when they see this picture book is because of the part about sex in our minds. But children can naturally learn about sex because there is no such thing."
The Netherlands is known as one of the countries with the best sex education.
However, there were times when the Netherlands also suffered from adolescent sexual problems.
The Netherlands was a country where premarital sex was uncomfortable and taboo even before the 1960s.
And in the 1970s, the average age to start sexual intercourse among Dutch youth was 12.4 years.
But in the 2000s, 30 years later, the age of six was delayed to 18.
The expert said, "I think this is the result of sex education."
“In the Netherlands, we teach healthy and safe sexual behavior, contraception, and taking responsibility for my behavior,” said an expert. “Proper sex education can prevent sexually transmitted infections and take responsibility for your choices and actions. You know you have to lose."
And it is known that it is parents who have to do this sex education, and that parents do sex education by revealing topics that may be of interest to their children and discussing them together.
In recent years, he emphasized that the concept has been driven by a comprehensive sex education starting with myself, gaining my confidence and establishing a special relationship with the other person, rather than a small concept of sex education centered on sexual activity as a male and female.
An expert advised, "In Korea, education that you should not do is given priority. So you will feel guilty," and advised, "You can delay the first experience through education that you are responsible, not by teaching you not to make an accident."
He added that parents' sex education takes precedence over children.
And he said, "It's important to ask back questions about the correct sex education method for children who have a lot of questions. What do you think? Can you explain? If something goes wrong with conversations, correct them and lead to discussion, it will be easy to talk."
And he said that sex stories are possible after all conversations are made, and that sex education is possible only when there are many conversations.
He also advised us to free ourselves from the compulsion to teach sexual behavior.
Focusing on relationships that can tell parents about sex to children and that's the parent's role.
The experts also emphasized the importance of contraceptive education.
He said that sex is not ashamed, it is personal, and there is no need to be ashamed of it.
An expert said, "It is better to do contraceptive education in the 4th and 5th grade teenagers. The period of menstruation is quicker, so it is natural to talk about sex or contraception." .
Finnish children take classes on the types and characteristics of sexually transmitted diseases, and take written and practical tests, and if they pass the standards, condom licenses are issued.
An expert said, "Because sexual education in Korea is to provide education for safety, there is little education about sexually transmitted diseases."
As a result, the average age at the start of sexual intercourse was as low as 13.6 years, and the birth control rate was about half.
In addition, he added that since it is about my body, it is possible to be cared about by knowing each other's sex.
And an expert said, "Don't be scared. Parents are just a fence for their children, and they can't do everything from one to ten. Just letting them know that they can talk to their parents whenever they are curious is a success." Emphasized that it is education.
Finally, the broadcast added that I should not forget that sex education is the key to opening my child's healthy and happy life.
(SBS Entertainment News Editor Kim Hyo-jeong)
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