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China News Service Client, Beijing, July 25 (Reporter Xing Rui) "Morality kidnapping" refers to a phenomenon in which people demand or coerce others with too high standards in the name of morality, and influence their behavior.
In the workplace, many people have also heard words such as "the capable people work harder", "young people will have more opportunities in the future, they must know how to be willing", "helping others is a pleasure, why don't you do me a favor" and so on.
In the face of "moral kidnapping" in the workplace, how can we maintain the "sovereignty" of the workplace?
During this time, the news of football superstar Cristiano Ronaldo's departure from Manchester United has caused a lot of uproar. Foreign media said that the Portuguese star has applied to the club to leave the team.
This news is like a blockbuster, shaking the whole world football.
I still remember last year, when Cristiano Ronaldo, who was at the end of his career, returned to Manchester United in a high-profile manner, there was a story of "the return of the wanderer".
Today, the rumors of Ronaldo's departure from the team have intensified, and many fans have begun to criticize his selfishness and infidelity, and even called him "Manchester United's cancer".
The stadium is another form of workplace.
From the perspective of "working workers", Ronaldo's departure is just a job-hopping in his long career.
If he is labeled as selfish because of this, is he also suspected of moral kidnapping?
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Zhuangzi once said: "There is no near-name for good, and no near-punishment for evil." For the same thing, we seem to be accustomed to expressing sympathy and praise to the weak, but scolding and criticizing the strong.
No one is perfect, and no gold is pure. It is a contradiction in itself to demand real people with ideal standards and to name them morality.
"What kind of bullshit is this? Good people have to be pointed at guns?" This line from "Let the Bullets Fly" was widely circulated.
The reason why the lines are classic is precisely because in real life, most people have been pointed at their foreheads by the high-sounding "moral gun" - they have a clear conscience, but it is difficult to justify.
Although Gao Fengliangjie is worth advocating, doing one thing willingly and being pushed by others to do it are fundamentally two different moods and two experiences.
In the workplace, it is a mistake to deliberately confuse interests with morality and use morality as a weapon to seek unequal interests.
In the face of "moral kidnapping", everyone is often helpless, because the reason why this trick is tried and tested is precisely because it directly hits the weakness of human nature, making the kidnapped himself fall into a moral lowland, turning sacrifice into obligation, and making morality a bondage.
If you want to stay away from the "moral kidnapping" of the workplace, try the following methods:
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Emphasize yourself, don't be swayed by other people's emotions
The reason why the moral bondage is established is because we care too much about the voice of the outside world, and for this reason, we suppress our true feelings and become a soft underbelly to be manipulated by others.
Sometimes, you might as well learn not to be swayed by outside emotions.
Calmness and independence is the attitude a professional should have.
In the TV series "Ode to Joy", Qiu Yingying, played by Yang Zi, is in love with her boss, Director Bai.
After being betrayed by the other party, Qiu Yingying was also threatened and provoked by Director Bai at work.
Under the multiple blows, Qiu Yingying couldn't control her emotions.
As a victim, she took the most irrational way to solve the problem, which eventually led to her losing her job.
In fact, in work, interpersonal relationships are important, but not all of the work, and spiritual attachment is difficult to exchange for the recognition and equal treatment of others.
In fact, only independence can be equal.
This is not just work independence, but also spiritual independence that is not easily influenced by others.
Please try to ignore the noise in your ears, let yourself gradually get out of the state where it is difficult to live without the approval of others, and strive to establish a self-value judgment standard and become an independent workplace person.
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Dare to say "no" and refuse unreasonable requests
Blind concessions will not gain understanding, choosing silence will only suffer alone.
Learning to say no is itself a manifestation of career growth.
The TV series "In Ordinary Glory" has such a bridge: after the honest man Wu Kezhi played by Zhao Youting clearly refused to take over a certain project, his opponent Qu Zhonghui and senior leaders all said, "Whether the next fund can be signed or not depends entirely on him. You're gone" to force him to solve this thorny problem.
Although Wu Kezhi was very reluctant, the other party's reason gave him the illusion that if he refused, the project could not be carried out.
In the end, Wu Kezhi tried his best, but the project ended in failure. He was not only criticized by his superiors, but also overdrawn his body and fell to the ground while blowing wind on the rooftop.
Sometimes, only by sticking to the bottom line and daring to say no can you safeguard your legal rights in the workplace.
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Change your thinking and learn to show the fruits of your labor
The so-called "capable people work more", from the perspective of result evaluation, "work" is not a contribution, but a credit, so the capable people should be good at making the outside world realize that they "work more", so as to realize "more work, more reward".
In the workplace, we urgently need to change the mindset of giving silently without expecting anything in return, and learn to show the results of our work.
There is a debate topic in "Wonderful Flowers": Do you want to be a career inviter?
Debater Liu Kairui told a story of his own: he once got a job playing a Q-bomb crayfish. He wore a thick lobster suit and bounced hard on the ground.
He was soaked in the lobster suit, and before he had time to take off his clothes, he shouted to the director: "Hello director, I am a hard-working lobster, my name is Liu Kairui, please take care of me."
Sometimes it's also a positive way to let others see your efforts.
By showing the results of your work, you can get more opportunities, and this is also a reward for your hard work.
But while extending your own interests, you must also guard your bottom line and follow your own heart.
I hope you and I can be freed from the moral kidnapping in the workplace, travel lightly, and have a healthy body and mind.
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