Data map: Dunhuang, Gansu.
Photo by Wang Binyin
China News Service, Beijing, July 16 (Reporter Xing Rui) The poet Shu Ting wrote in "To the Oak Tree": "If I love you, I will never be like a climbing lily flower, showing myself off with your tall branches; if I love you, Never imitate infatuated birds, repeating monotonous songs for the shade."
This famous love poem has been widely praised among young people.
Straightforward and warm words depict an ideal love that is independent and interdependent, and it has also become a love motto in many people's hearts.
But real life is far less beautiful and freehand than poetry, and love is not always sweet and warm, and there is a lot of blood and helplessness in it.
After many people enter a relationship, they will send out similar soul torture: what kind of love can last?
Data map: Zhang Changning is being interviewed at the 2017 Chinese Volleyball League Awards Ceremony.
Photo by China News Service reporter Li Qing
A few days ago, the women's volleyball Olympic champion Zhang Changning announced his wedding date with basketball star Wu Guanxi.
Their love story, without too much vigour and splendor, has the same three views and common aspirations, and has achieved a successful sports story.
Zhang Changning and Wu Guanxi were both born into sports families. Their fathers were both volleyball players and they had known each other for many years.
Originally holding the script of childhood sweethearts, the two did not know each other until 2017.
As athletes, they have endless topics to talk about.
Whether it is an injury problem or a training setback, the other side will give each other support and encouragement.
After the Rio Olympics, Zhang Changning fell into a low ebb due to injuries.
During that difficult time, although Wu Guanxi could not be by her side all the time, the warmth and relief he brought through the phone and the Internet became a huge motivation for Zhang Changning to get out of the haze.
Feelings that have experienced wind and rain will not fade with the passage of time.
Long-term love requires not only the tacit understanding that never leaves, but also the growth that has been nurtured together like Zhang Changning and Wu Guanxi.
Data map: Aerial photography of the morning fog on the terraced fields of Hejiayan Village, Huatian Township, Youyang Tujia and Miao Autonomous County, Chongqing City.
Image source: Visual China
People often say that when you love someone, you must give yourself unreservedly, and only talk about giving, regardless of gain or loss.
But in fact, love is more like a balance, and only if the two sides are evenly matched can it last for a long time.
The well-known literary work "Jane Eyre" describes an independent woman who dares to fight and pursue true love.
The heroine Jane Eyre is an orphan who lost her parents since childhood.
Growing up, Jane fell in love with Rochester, the owner of Thornfield Manor.
She loved his kindness and sense of responsibility, and Rochester was drawn to Jane's talents and ideas.
Just when the two were about to enter the marriage hall, Jane discovered that Rochester had a legal wife.
She couldn't tolerate betrayal in love, and left overnight despite her fiance's hard work.
At the end of the story, Jane unexpectedly received a valuable inheritance.
Returning to her hometown, she finds that the person she once loved was injured and maimed in a fire.
Jane finally chose to spend the rest of her life guarding him, reading for him, and walking with him.
The once huge class gap, to today's incomplete limbs and flaws in appearance, has never been a stumbling block for them.
Because their souls and personalities are always equal.
Just like what is written in the novel: "Love is a game. You must always be on an equal footing with each other and evenly matched, so that you can stay connected for a long time." The soul, the unity of spirit and the fit of character.
This high-level equality may be more conducive to the mutual growth and mutual nourishment of both parties.
Data map: The drone overlooks the beauty of Xisha Yinyu from a high altitude.
Photo by China News Agency reporter Luo Yunfei
Hong Kong movie star Carina Lau once said: "There is no permanent marriage, only couples who grow together." A partner who can go on for a long time may become a better version of himself in an intimate relationship.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun, played by Ma Yili, became a full-time wife at home with peace of mind after marriage.
Her husband, Chen Junsheng, worked hard outside to support her and her children.
Over time, the gap between her and her husband has grown, and the common language has become less and less. The marriage that was once thought to be indestructible also collapsed because of the intervention of a third party.
In the play, Tang Jing said when comforting Luo Zijun after the divorce: "When two people are together, the one who progresses quickly will always get rid of the one who is standing still. Because of human instinct, they all hope to explore the extension of life more. and content."
The purpose of our love is to be happy.
Some people say that the essence of marriage is like starting a business and starting a company. In the face of an uncertain future, I am afraid that no one wants to meet "pig-like teammates".
Writer Li Xiaoyi once said: "Girl, please make a living first, and then seek love." Beautiful relationships are not static, and no one should pin their hopes on the other half. Only by being the first to live out their splendor can they enjoy love. Beautiful and sweet.
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