Data map: Feitian Park in Dunhuang, Gansu.
Photo by Wang Binyin
China News Service Client, Beijing, May 31 (Reporter Xing Rui) I don't know when "anxiety literature" became popular on the Internet.
These trafficked "poisonous chicken soup" seem to be "positive", but they can always lead to some unnecessary anxiety.
If you happen to be middle-aged people, old and young, then you are more likely to be the audience for "anxiety literature".
"Age anxiety", "marriage anxiety", "career anxiety", "education anxiety"... All kinds of pressures come to face, making middle-aged people who are burdened to move forward exhausted.
In the middle of the night, brushing the phone, not relaxing but getting more and more tormented.
Some people have trouble sleeping and eating because of this, and some people are caught in a vortex of ineffective efforts and extreme involution.
In the previous hit drama "Little Shede", Tian Yulan, played by Jiang Xin, worked hard for her son Yan Ziyou's "Little Shengchu".
She enrolled her son in various cram schools, forced him to take the Mathematical Olympiad exam, and deprived his son of his hobby of playing football.
Nan Li, a "Buddha raising a baby", originally sneered at Tian Yulan's operation, until her daughter Huanhuan's failing math score deeply hurt her heart.
Looking at the excellent Yan Ziyou, Nan Li also began to gradually become "lanky" and held up the "chicken baby" banner.
Data map: In the Shahu Scenic Spot in Ningxia, the staff used traditional methods to perform "cormorant fishing".
Photo by Yu Jing
As the saying goes, there is no harm without comparison. Nan Li's change stems from the gap between Huanhuan and Yan Ziyou.
Like Nan Li, the anxiety of many middle-aged people also comes from comparison.
It is human nature to yearn for a better life, but the real life of most middle-aged people is often filled with trivialities of firewood, rice, oil and salt.
Some people began to pursue poetry and distant places early, while others were exhausted by the mischief in front of them.
This sense of gap amplifies anxiety infinitely, and it also devours middle-aged people who are striving to move forward.
Nakamura Kotsuko wrote in "The World Worth": "If you don't have a life you like and yearn for, and take the lives of others as your standard, the luggage on your body will become heavier and heavier, and you will only feel more and more pressure."
Perhaps,
only when you stop demanding yourself from other people's standards, and stop blindly pursuing success in the worldly sense, can you not be trapped by the shackles of anxiety.
Data map: At the Tokyo Olympics, Chusovitina compares her heart.
Chusovitina, a 47-year-old gymnast from Uzbekistan, recently devoted herself to the preparations for the Paris Olympics, after her eight-game Olympic saga had inspired countless people.
But she is no longer young, and she is getting farther and farther away from the medal.
For Chusovitina, the goal of participating in the Olympics has long been more than honor.
After her son's leukemia was cured, she no longer had urgent financial pressures.
What supports her till now is her most faithful love for gymnastics: "There is no secret. I just like gymnastics, and no one has ever forced me to participate in competitions. I have followed my heart and insisted on exercising for so many years. I like sports, I know it is What, I want to be a happy person."
Even though she was defeated by a player about the same age as her son, Chusovitina was never anxious or depressed.
Instead, she enjoyed the game.
Without the obsession with medals, Chusovitina's career has lasted longer.
Data map: Chusovitina waves to the audience at the Tokyo Olympics.
Sometimes the definition of success is not set in stone, nor is a gold medal the only measure of an athlete's success.
Even if she didn't stand on the podium, Chusovitina insisted on her love.
After breaking the secular concept of success, she is still happy and comfortable.
When people reach middle age, they have reached the age of reconciliation with themselves.
Stop blindly pursuing status, wealth, and power, and listen more to your inner voice, so that you can resist the cruelty of life in the most real and powerful state.
"Mr. Five Willows" Tao Yuanming is known as "the originator of the idyllic school".
Born into an official family, he spent the first half of his life as a prowler.
Until the age of no confusion, Tao Yuanming decided to live the pastoral life he longed for.
He hung up his seal and resigned from the office, lived in seclusion at the foot of Mount Lu, farmed, drank and composed poetry, leaving behind poems that have been passed down through the ages and the integrity of not bowing to five buckets of rice.
Data map: The picture shows a small mountain village in the tropical rain forest of Xishuangbanna.
Image source: ICphoto
The famous psychologist Carl Jung once said: "The first half of your life may belong to others, live in the opinion of others, and give the second half of your life back to yourself, to follow your inner voice."
In his view, middle age is undoubtedly an important moment for self-awakening and a turning point in the first and second half of life.
After going through the frivolity of youth, when people reach middle age, they should recognize the boundaries of their own abilities, and they should also understand that some dreams cannot be realized even if they try their best.
Most people realize their ordinary and ordinary in the process of getting older.
But acknowledging one's ordinary life doesn't mean feeling sorry for oneself and living in a daze.
If you work hard to live an ordinary and ordinary day, people can have unlimited vitality when they reach middle age.
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