On February 18, Chinese team player Gu Ailing was presenting the souvenirs.

On the same day, the freestyle skiing women's U-shaped field skills final of the Beijing 2022 Winter Olympics was held at Zhangjiakou Yunding Ski Park.

Chinese team player Gu Ailing won the gold medal in this event.

Photo by China News Agency reporter Zhai Yujia

　　Chinanews client, Beijing, March 3 (Wang Hao) The popular film and television work "The World" some time ago has a classic line: "He has the right to choose his own life and happiness."

　　This sentence is more suitable for Gu Ailing.

　　At the age of 18, he achieved a career "Grand Slam" in the Winter Olympics, winning 2 golds and 1 silver.

Behind these three words is an honor that is unattainable for ordinary people, unknown hard work, perseverance and a talent that has a flash of inspiration.

　　Of course, such a girl who is ridiculed by "which window did God close for her" cannot be separated from the education of her family's success.

　　How can we raise such a well-rounded child?

You need to know these qualities of them.

Data map: The eagle spreads its wings and soars.

Photo by Li Jinghai

　　Before the last jump of the women's freestyle ski jumping platform at the Beijing Winter Olympics, Gu Ailing called her mother Gu Yan. Gu Yan suggested that she should choose a relatively conservative move, but Gu Ailing finally decided to challenge the highest difficulty.

　　This is like a microcosm of Gu Ailing's upbringing. Her mother gave her advice from another perspective, but left the decision to herself.

　　Skiing is a very dangerous sport, and Gu Ailing is often injured during training and competition.

Once, she had a brief amnesia after a fall, so she broke down and cried.

Gu Yan stood aside, just wiping away her daughter's tears distressedly, soothing her emotions.

　　Just as Gu Ailing participated in the adult competition for the first time, when she came on stage with a cold, her mother just respected her daughter's decision and did not interfere in the name of love.

When Gu Ailing takes any adventure, she has the right to decide.

　　Gu Ailing said, "When I choose something, she will not let me make mistakes. She taught me how to break it down step by step and how to achieve it."

　　Because she is in such a free environment, Gu Ailing does not feel tired on the road she chooses, she is also happy to finish her homework in the car for skiing, and she is also happy to read a book on a transoceanic flight for the competition. This is love.

Data map: Shanghai Ballet's classic "Swan Lake".

Photo by Tang Yanjun

　　In fact, the best education is to teach by words and deeds, and be a role model for children.

　　Because Gu Yan loves skiing, it also influenced Gu Ailing when she was young.

In order to support her daughter in skiing, every weekend or holiday in the ski season, she will drive her daughter to ski and train for four hours, thus opening a road to a famous skier.

　　After the grand platform competition of the Beijing Winter Olympics, the champion Gu Ailing did not celebrate immediately. Instead, she hugged her opponent who was crying because of her mistakes, comforting and encouraging her.

　　In fact, when Gu Ailing participated in the competition before, she also wanted to give up because she kept falling down.

At this time, Gu Yan walked to her daughter's side and gently patted her on the shoulder, encouraging her to stand up and persevere.

Gu Ailing's mother (second from left in the front row) watched the final of the women's freestyle skiing platform at the Beijing Winter Olympics.

Photo by China News Agency reporter Mao Jianjun

　　But something unexpected, Gu Yan once said to her daughter, you don't need to thank me when you grow up, you don't owe me at all.

It is this attitude that makes Gu Ailing's wings unburdened and able to fly higher and higher.

　　She said, "If I want to talk about ideas, I can remember two sentences. The first sentence is what Ailing's teachers said when they entered school, and they don't attack children's creativity. The second sentence is about the ideas they have learned, and they should be praised less for their intelligence. , and praise them for their efforts.”

I still remember that in the hit TV series "Little Joy" two years ago, there was a character named Song Qian. As a Kochi woman with a successful career, she has never been able to communicate well with her children.

Screenshot of "Little Joy".

　　She planned everything for her daughter, but she didn't think about whether it was what her daughter wanted.

When a daughter defies her mother's will, she will feel guilty.

Under such pressure, neither mother nor daughter is happy.

　　Many viewers' evaluation of Song Qian is suffocating, and they more or less see the shadow of their parents.

This is a counter-example in education. No matter who, the three words "for your own good" are too heavy.

　　It is not difficult to understand the existence of parents' high expectations for their children, but how to express expectations reasonably is a science.

A child-friendly goal is the best goal, and a child-friendly path is the best path.

The lighthouse on the River Tyne reflects the morning sun.

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　　Give each other more space in the parent-child relationship, and at the same time tell the children, never give up when encountering difficulties, and make good choices at critical moments in life.

　　When Su Yiming was 7 years old, he was seriously injured in the process of skiing and fractured his thigh.

It's not hard to imagine what a blow this is for a child.

　　But after the operation, the first thing Su Yiming's mother said was not comfort, but: "Baby, we can't give up skiing because of this."

　　Su's mother said that it is not that she wants her son to have great success in skiing, but that he does not want him to shrink back because of fear.

　　After that, whether Su Yiming chose to participate in film and television dramas or decided to become a professional athlete, his mother supported and encouraged him.

This is probably what family love looks like, reaching out to you when you are in difficulty, and withdrawing your hand to applaud you after you walk independently.

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　　Of course, no one will be the next Gu Ailing, and no one will be the next Su Yiming.

　　But everyone can be a better version of themselves, and can help children grow better—giving them the freedom to choose their path to the future, rather than relying on self-righteous experiences to control and replicate their children’s futures.

　　As "The World" said, "He has the right to choose his own life and happiness", which is the best blessing to all children in the world.