Left-wing, educated men think that they are committed to the equality of women through their conviction alone. Woke machos are only sexists.
January 18, 2020, 5:09 p.m. Updated on January 18, 2020, 5:09 p.m.
We were in our early twenties, had no idea how sexism worked, but of course we did. We, a handful of women and men, studied political science in the early 10s in Marburg and took the course "Introduction to the Critique of Gender Relations" by Professor Ingrid Kurz-Scherf. She explained to us how women had fought for the right to vote and work and what the great thinkers had thought of the "weak sex": Luther, you sexist, wrote: "The greatest honor that women have is all the more that men are born through them ". What a bullshit.
How easy it was for us left-politicized students to punish the sexism of dead men. Or the federal government for their spouse splitting or the Marburg fraternities for their ancient roles. It was fun and good form, also for men. They counted the authors on the reading lists of the profs and assigned types to parties whose hands slipped down our backs as they pushed past us.
Our male friends seemed to be woke , alert to discrimination. Conscious, sensitive, sensitive. They played on our team.
However, when we came together to cook Bolognese in one of our shared apartments, it was us women who set the table. And it was the men who whispered about last night's conquests: "Haha guys, I stuck to one last night, super gross." And the other boys like this: "Woah real, haha".
It hurts. In contrast to the role models that we have internalized for twenty years, in reality we did not arrive as easily as in our homework. We women didn't dare to say anything because we didn't want to be fun brakes, because we didn't want to mess with the boys. Too often we have thought sentences like "He never learned to communicate his feelings" or "He's just a mess" - and lied to ourselves the most.
My male classmates were angry with us that women in West Germany were only allowed to work with their husbands' permission until 1977, and rape only became a crime in 1997. They campaigned for equal pay and more women in leadership positions. But they also spoke badly about women with whom they slept. And stamped us, her friends, as jealous when we made her aware of it. Relax!
Yes, they were for the equal woman. But only as long as she wasn't around.
The sexist linker men is more subtle than that of the mainstream because it can hide behind the fight against the superiors, against the system or against the right. The past is more easily condemned than the present, Jens Spahn criticizes more quickly than one's own reflection, which analyzes strangers better than time.
It is the essence of antisexism to start not with the abstract, but with oneself. Only those who reflect on their own behavior can really counter learned discrimination.
Everything else is at the end, unfortunately, just show.
I did my bachelor’s degree in political science in 2015, and sexism in my environment has not decreased since then. On the contrary. I have the feeling that it is getting worse.
"I'm going to do the Mansplainer here, hehe"
And it's not about the guys, the women on the street with a beer in the back of the hand. Or harass, insult, threaten them online. You have to talk about, argue, judge elsewhere. I am concerned with the Philipps, Jans and Patricks, who quote Judith Butler, Margarete Stokowski or Rebecca Solnit, who celebrate Lizzo and who wear The Future is Female T-shirt. And who have never stopped explaining the world to women, treating them from above, not taking them seriously.
There are the fathers, like the Austrian singer, actor and cabaret artist Manuel Rubey, who first have to become the father of a daughter in order to publicly profess to be a feminist.
There are the three former colleagues who have always asked each other for feedback on their work, but never a woman.
And there is a friend who interrupts me in discussions with words like "What you mean is the following". And that also finds it funny: "I'm doing the Mansplainer here, hehe".
I am friends with many such men or I value them as my colleagues. Because they are smart, helpful, nice people. Nevertheless, it hurts me to have to explain again and again. Always waiting for them to understand for themselves that their unsolidarity is only cementing the situation. In our system, male rule is still based on the devaluation of women through sexism. White men are not only politically but also statistically the freest people in our society. In contrast to women, who are 81 percent victims of partner violence, receive an average of 53 percent less pension, only one in three managers.
A left setting can, but does not have to change anything about these problems.
A left-wing man is also born with the privileges of his gender. A leftist man is also part of the patriarchy. Even a left-wing man will not change these conditions if he does not change his own behavior.
You want an open debate culture, but you don't really listen to women.
You want to abolish capitalism, but always earn more than your women.
You want to raise your children on an equal footing, but you only take two months of parental leave.
You want women in management positions, but only talk about job offers in your boys club.
You want social equality, but you don't care about your women's pension.
You want equal sex, but you don't want to pay for the pill.
But men who are serious about gender equality should also participate financially in female contraception. They should behave towards their girlfriends just as they do towards their buddies and their uncomfortable behavior, not as jealous, hysterical, clinging. They should listen more, interrupt less and encourage the work of their colleagues. And they should point out other men to sexist behavior - even if no woman is present.
The struggle for equality is not something to adorn yourself with. It is something that mantut. Only a man who has understood this can therefore also be called a woke . By women.
My girlfriends from back then and I are stricter with the men in our lives today. No longer lay tables. We say it when men treat us badly or speak badly about other women. We broke off contacts and didn't even start up. We have become louder, stricter, more uncompromising.
Our antisexism also started with ourselves.