Rafael van der Vaart is not busy raising his son Damián and his daughter Jesslynn, according to Estavana Polman. The girlfriend of the 36-year-old former football player regularly tells him that.
"With me everything is always allowed. That's how I am," says Van der Vaart in conversation with JFK Magazine .
Son Damián got Van der Vaart together with his ex-wife Sylvie Meis, daughter Jesslyn together with current girlfriend Polman. His son lives with Meis in Hamburg and therefore sees Van der Vaart less. "When Damian comes to visit for a weekend, I try to cram everything into the weekend and it doesn't really mean saying".
Van der Vaart finds it difficult that he does not see his oldest child every day. "That can sometimes make me really sad. You just want to be with them every day. Unfortunately, that is not possible, although I am happy with how things are going now."
The former soccer player always misses his thirteen-year-old son, but some days he falls just a bit heavier than others. "For example if he has a competition and I can't see it, or on his sister's birthday he can't attend because of school and the distance. At Christmas you divide the time. With vacation: sharing. That is for parents and children really difficult. "