The "sacred bonds of marriage" had made them feel that they were handcuffed and trapped. If they first lived happy years, Marie, 55, and her ex-husband, eventually broke their commitment ... Without ceasing to maintain a close relationship and very strong complicity. More fulfilled, Marie told the story so special of his relationship with Olivier Delacroix, Tuesday on Europe 1.
"With my husband, we had been together since 1998. In 2011, there was a necessary break, I said necessary because there were a lot of silences, we did not even talk anymore, we had no more intimate life ... Many couples continue to live together through these difficult things, but we did not care about continuing to live in a lie, so we decided to split up quickly so we could be freer.
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Our marriage has been happy for many years. We lived in Canada and we came back to live in Paris. And we always wondered if the apartment a little small had not contributed to the explosion of our couple. We did not have enough space.
He is the one who filed for divorce. We went on vacation, and on our way back, there was a rather strong shouting. He was more on words, and me more in silence. He said to me: 'That's it, I think I can not continue. We must divorce.
At first, I did not think he was that way. I thought maybe we could still solve things. It had crossed my mind, but not so concretely. When he arrived with this decision, it was a shock for me at first, then I quickly accepted it. I realized we had no other choice.
When we came out of the courthouse, he said to me, 'Come on, let's drink champagne!'
Some time later, when we left the courthouse when the divorce had just been pronounced, he told me: 'Come on, let's have a drink, we'll drink the champagne!' For me, frankly, it did not happen. At that time, I did not live it as well as him. So I did not go there. In his head, this divorce was a step towards a reconciliation. It was not a divorce as some couples live out of the courthouse and hate each other. We were not that. Knowing him, I knew it was not mean of him. It was rather to say that this difficult situation was finally behind us and that we could move on.
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We have a girl together, so it's a vital link that will last forever, forever. We have no choice, we have not cut the bridges. Since we have a lot of benevolence towards our daughter, we decided to do things intelligently, not to hate each other, or to say bad words to her. We have always acted very civilly.
She was 10 years old at the time. She realized that we were separating. It went better than I thought. She has always been raised in a certain openness. When she was told, of course, she cried a few tears. Then we explained very gently what was happening, and she understood. At the age of 10, she was really strong.
Now, it's like we're married ... but divorced
Today, with my ex-husband, we have a very strong relationship. It's like we're married ... but divorced. I do not know how to explain it. We live by being very close to each other, we see each other almost every weekend, we go on vacation together ... everything is going very well. And unfortunately, there is really no room for another person in our relationship. In fact, what has contributed to our divorce is the confinement of marriage. Quite simply."
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