There have often been warning signs around the children who have been taken out of the country or left there against their will, svt's review shows. In many cases, social services are already involved in the family, or a sibling, parent or the child himself has been worried about an upcoming trip abroad.
Sandra's children were abducted to Saudi Arabia when they were one and three years old, even though she had shared her concerns about it even before giving birth.
"If only someone had reported concerns, I might have understood how dangerous the situation was," she says now.
In Sandra's case, the hospital never reported to social services, even though they wrote in the medical records that they should.
Enough worry
But you don't have to be an expert in honour violence, or know for sure that something is going to go wrong to report it to social services or the police," says Erik Ulnes. It is enough to be worried.
He has met and spoken to many young people who live with honour violence or oppression at home. He believes that the important thing is to be open, and open to conversations regardless of whether you are a dance teacher or a football coach.
"When it comes to both genital mutilation and sexual assault, there's such a big gap to tell the adult world." It is filled with guilt and shame and worry about how the adult world will react or if there is something you have done wrong yourself. If football coaches talk about this and if you talk about it at school, you reduce the gap and the difficulty of being able to tell an adult.