While going to a psychotherapist has become common and acceptable in many societies and is not associated with stigma as it was in previous decades, some people still hesitate to take that step, and may deny their psychological and mental pain for fear of making that decision despite the great need for it.

Therefore, some may need more support from those around them to urge them to visit a psychotherapist, and to achieve a real change in their life.

In a report published by Psychology Today, writer Abigail Fagan says that we may feel fear and confusion when seeing a loved one suffering from mental health problems without a desire for treatment, so here's how to direct them to treatment with care and respect.

  • Choose the right time

The writer explained the need to choose a time when the person is likely to accept your speech, so do not surprise him as soon as he wakes up or returns from work, for example, but make sure that there is ample time and space to speak in private, or you can also ask him about the appropriate time for him directly.

  • Don't judge

The author suggested starting by showing your desire to help when bringing up the topic of psychological treatment, and expressing your interest in the other party.

Ask questions and listen carefully and patiently to answers, try to identify the other person's concerns about therapy, and make sure you're bringing it up because you want him to be right and happy.

when explaining particular concerns;

Describe what you noticed and how treatment might help.

For example, you could say, "I've noticed that you've been looking sad for the past few months based on behavior (X), and I think therapy might be helpful for reasons (Y)."

Avoid being motivated by anger or issuing judgment, whether in tone or content, because the other person may interpret your words as struggling to live with him, and no longer wanting help, but rather preferring to solve his own problems.

When the sessions begin, you will begin to have feelings and thoughts about your therapist and your relationship during the treatment journey.

It is very important that you monitor these feelings and thoughts, and be very open about sharing them (Shutterstock)

  • Convincing the importance of treatment in consolidating relationships

According to Dr. David Woodsfellow, one partner often leads the treatment effort, and must persuade the other to come along;

Therefore, it is suggested that this partner use the word "I" instead of "you", state the problem, and explain how their relationship will benefit from treatment.

  • Share your own experience

Author Fagan said that instead of lecturing the person about the value of therapy, share with them how it has helped you overcome similar issues.

Stories are powerful, not to mention the usefulness of this approach in overcoming stigma.

Also, talking about your personal experience with therapy shifts the focus away from someone having "something wrong" to the fact that it's a normal experience that many people go through and others go through too.

  • Pay attention to common fears and misconceptions

Fagan said there are several common reasons people refuse to see a therapist.

As psychologist Lauren Soiro explains, excuses usually include:

  • It costs a lot.

  • I do not have time.

  • I prefer talking to my friends.

  • I went to a psychiatrist once and it didn't help.

  • What's the point of talking?

  • I don't feel comfortable talking about these things with a stranger.

  • Therapists don't say anything, they just sit and pass judgment.

  • Therapists don't really care about you, they work for money.

Having concerns about psychotherapy is logical, so don't dismiss these concerns, but rather try to reduce them with your loved one.

And try to search for how to persuade others to resort to a psychotherapist, despite their fears.

If your family member is concerned about privacy, you can let them know that all information shared by patients is strictly confidential.

Having concerns about psychotherapy is logical, so do not dismiss these concerns, but rather try to minimize them (Pixels)

  • Offer to help with logistics

The writer pointed out that the process of finding a therapist can take a long time and stressful, especially for those who already suffer from stress, anxiety or depression.

So;

Offer to help with logistics, such as finding a list of therapists or driving them to a doctor's appointment. Some may appreciate the help, while others may prefer to do it themselves.

  • Know when to stop

Abigail Fagan pointed out that you cannot force someone to go to a psychotherapist, but rather that the results may be negative if the person rejects the idea.

If someone refuses treatment, the course will be different based on the relationship and context;

If the relationship is too harmful to continue, you may find yourself having to draw new boundaries or end the relationship altogether.

But if the person is someone who will continue to be in your life, know when to stop suggesting. While you're doing all you can to offer encouragement and information, it's still important for people to make the decision to accept help themselves.

The author concluded the report that opposition to treatment now may not necessarily continue;

Sometimes, a stressful transition period changes a person's perspective on trying and experimenting.

Although this is not guaranteed, it is still a possibility.