Excessive kindness in your dealings or sharing personal details about you, such actions and others that you may think can bring you closer to others.
On the contrary, it harms your attempts to meet new people and makes you instantly hated.
Whether during the first acquaintance stage or in general, there are some behaviors that leave a bad impression on you, and make those around you not like to interact with you or talk to you because of them.
We explain some of them to you so that you can take them into account and leave a better impression on those around you, through the following points:
She shares very personal details
Being honest, open, and talking about yourself with confidence is one of the best ways to make friends, and sharing secrets helps strengthen relationships.
But if you go too frank and start revealing very personal things early on in the relationship, it can affect how much others like and accept you, and it can make them feel intimidated by you and appear to be an insecure person.
The balance here is to know the limits of what you share with others of personal information, and it may be sufficient to talk about your hobbies and favorite childhood memories.
Your handshake is scanty
A University of Alabama study found that people can predict the personalities of college students by the way they shake hands. Those with a firm handshake were more positive, open, and less socially anxious.
Another study published in the Journal of Applied Psychology reported that those with a firm handshake at the start of job interviews were more likely to be hired.
Show off modesty
Some people use a special method to get the admiration of others, which is talking about themselves negatively and criticizing themselves, instead of showing off what they have.
It's a behavior known as "humblebragging," and it causes a negative reaction in others, and they repel those who do it, according to a study from Harvard Business School.
And the study participants were asked to write down their weaknesses that they say during a job interview, and the results showed that more than 3 quarters of the participants wrote things that they are proud of, but modestly, such as saying that their weakness is being perfect in their work or working too hard.
The result was that people who spoke honestly about themselves and wrote things like “Sometimes I overreact to situations” impressed employees more, and were more likely to actually be hired.
Bragging wrapped in modesty leaves a negative impression on others (Shutterstock)
Many questions, few words
A study conducted by Susan Sprecher, a professor at Illinois State University, warned against trying to get to know others by asking a lot of questions without talking about yourself.
She stressed that self-talk must be mutual between the two parties. If one party talks about himself, it is expected that this will be mutual and that the other party will share information about himself as well.
Hide your feelings
Allowing your true feelings to appear and sharing them with others strengthens relationships and strengthens the human bond between you, and this is one of the best strategies that make you loved, unlike those who completely conceal and hide their feelings.
In a study from the American University of Oregon, researchers examined the extent to which people interact with video clips of people suppressing their feelings while watching touching scenes and others showing their feelings.
The results showed that the participants judged those who suppressed their feelings to be less accepting and open than the people who showed their feelings normally.
The researchers wrote that people are looking for people who share their human feelings with them, so when they saw someone suppressing and hiding their feelings, they interpreted this as being unaffected and lacking interest in the feelings of others.
You are being overly kind
You might think that the more cute you are, the more likable you are.
But contrary to what you think, research, including a study published in Sciencedaily, indicates that excessive kindness and friendliness without an apparent reason may make others think that you have ulterior motives.
Extreme kindness from someone in a group raises expectations of other people, so they feel that this person's behavior makes them look bad compared to him.
In job interviews, those who had a strong handshake at the beginning of the interview were more likely to be hired (Shutterstock)
do not smile
It is difficult to maintain your smile all the time while you are in a social event, but at the beginning of contact with people you do not know, your smile greatly affects their impression of you and their desire to interact with you and get close to you.
And researchers at Stanford University found that students who interacted with each other online had a more positive feeling about people who smiled the most in their selfies.
She posts a lot of pictures on social media platforms
Share your photos frequently on social networking sites and view the details of your day;
What you ate, where you went, and who you talked to may make others dislike your presence on social media and in real life.
And a study by researcher David Hutton, from the University of Birmingham, UK, found that posting too many pictures on Facebook can harm your relationships in real life.
Show your lack of love
Psychologists know of a phenomenon called reciprocity of liking, which means that when we think someone likes us we tend to like them too.
And researchers at the University of Waterloo and the University of Manitoba found that when we see acceptance from people, we act in a warmer way towards them, and then the chances that they really love us increase, according to the British newspaper, The Independent.
So even if you aren't sure how the person you're interacting with has feelings for you, when you act like you love them, they're likely to love you too, and if you show you don't like them, they probably don't really like you either.
If you show that you do not love the other, it is likely that he will not really love you either (Shutterstock)
You brag about the famous people you know
It may be tempting to bring up the name of a celebrity who graduated from your university in order to impress the person you're talking to, but it can backfire.
A study from the Swiss University of Zurich indicated that mentioning the names of celebrities in this way makes a person appear less attractive and efficient, and thus the less admiration of those around him, the stronger this relationship that binds him to the famous person.