The problems are exacerbated by the lack of awareness, the absence of dialogue, and the interference of parties from outside

“Insecurity” is behind family disputes and leads husbands to court

  • The accumulation of disagreements and anger leads couples to the Personal Status Court.

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  • Judge Khaled Al-Hosani: "The lack of awareness makes the couple lose the ability to establish a healthy dialogue that helps them contain their differences."

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The President of the Personal Status Court in Dubai, Judge Khaled Al Hosani, said that “insecurity” reduces all causes of family disputes between spouses, noting that separation usually occurs when one of the parties feels psychological, physical or financial security.

He explained to "Emirates Today" that the interference of other parties in the family, such as the father, mother or siblings, is a cause of the exacerbation of the dispute, as well as the lack of awareness, and the inability of the spouses to establish a real dialogue focused on finding solutions and not just controversy, and exaggerated accusations and blame.

He stressed that the couples who appear on social media, and depict all the details of their lives, whether inside the house, going out or traveling, are fake models, and what they present is just representation, and they should not be affected, because the reality is different, and the marital relationship is like any other relationship that cannot go At the same pace, it is normal for problems to occur, and the successful couple are the ones who can contain and overcome these situations.

In detail, Judge Khaled Al-Hosani stated that from the reality of family cases and lawsuits considered by the court, the lack of security is the main reason that reduces the majority of the factors that exacerbate family disputes and divorce. The absence of psychological, physical or financial security doubles the size of other problems, and complicates the family relationship On the contrary, the feeling of safety with the other party psychologically, morally or financially, increases the area of ​​tolerance and understanding and the ability to contain any problem, whatever its size.

He pointed out that it is necessary to realize that family problems are not solved with the click of a button, and the liar who shows his ability to solve in this way, every case is different from the other, and what can be applied yesterday may no longer be appropriate today, especially with regard to the wife's resort to the father, mother or Brother, as they used to interfere in the past in the interest of continuing the relationship, but they may be a reason to multiply and complicate differences.

He stressed the importance of early awareness among new spouses, even if through curricula taught in the basic education stages, and dealing with the values ​​of a normal family relationship, noting that the absence of awareness loses the two parties' ability to establish a healthy dialogue that helps them contain their differences.

He said that the problem is the absence of dialogue from the ground up, and its replacement by shouting, cursing or beating, stressing that there is a big difference between dialogue and controversy, as the former provides an opportunity for understanding, unlike the controversy in which each party calls the causes of differences, exaggerates talking about itself, and places blame and responsibility on the other end.

He explained that a person who is honest with himself, whether he is a husband or wife, must evaluate his actions before holding the other accountable, and if he makes a mistake, he must apologize simply and courageously, as this calms the soul and prevents the accumulation of differences, distress and anger.

He stressed that it is also important in the husbands dialogue, the ability of each party to make concessions, whether they are far from religious or moral matters, meaning that he tries to change his behavior that is reflected on the other party, if the husband is angry or acts nervously in a particular situation, the wife must As much as she can avoid it, and if the wife feels sad or upset about certain behavior of the husband, such as his lateness abroad, then he must take this into account, because the house has rights that must be observed, and his wife and children have a right over him.

Al-Hosani said that the state is doing its utmost to enhance family stability and reduce divorce rates, and the legislative system has been amended to achieve this goal, but awareness remains the key word, especially for those who are about to get married.

He added that some husbands believe that the models they see on social media are the most ideal, which negatively affects their lives. A false situation of her husband's exaggerated interest in her, and their pictures are published in restaurants, while traveling, or other manifestations that are no more than a kind of representation, and are not related to reality, and thus highlight the importance of awareness.

He added that realizing the essence of the marital relationship is important for both parties, as it is a human partnership in the first place, its continuity and strength must be preserved, but if each realizes the impossibility of this, the separation must be friendly, benevolent and civil, because divorce is harmful, but it may pay greater harm if Husband continued.

The nature of the marital relationship

The head of the Personal Status Court in Dubai, Judge Khaled Al Hosani, confirmed that there is a group of spouses who believe that divorce is a declaration of war, and each seeks revenge and abuse of the other, and this pattern is remarkably frequent among Arabs more than foreigners who always look at solutions rather than problems. .

And whether there is an impact of the Corona pandemic on the nature of the marital relationship, Al-Hosani said that there is no direct effect, as the cohesive families from the ground up have increased cohesion and interdependence, and those that were suffering from disintegration also increased, but the pandemic was not a direct cause of disagreement or divorce, as much as It was a catalyst for accelerating the separation, or bridging the rift and bringing the two parties together, and giving each of them the opportunity to discover the other.

• The President of the Personal Status Court in Dubai warned against being influenced by fake "Social Media" models.


• The state is doing its utmost to enhance family stability and reduce divorce rates.

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