Why do so many couples break up in September?

Romain Rouillard 8:55 p.m., September 02, 2022

The summer holidays are over, work and the stress that comes with it are back, as are the obligations of daily life.

The beginning of September is often accompanied by a generalized spleen which obviously does not spare couples.

At the heart of this sometimes depressing period, many love stories encounter significant turbulence, which can go as far as breaking up. 

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Guest of the show

on Europe 1, psychologist and couple therapist Camille Rochet confirms this trend.

The month of September is conducive to breakups for a whole host of reasons.

“We tell ourselves that everyday life will eat up our relationship as a couple and we are invaded by all the burdens that we have in everyday life”, explains the psychologist at the outset.

The month of September symbolizes, in fact, the end of summer carelessness and the return of problems put away in the closet during the summer. 

Holiday expectations 

“Couples wait for the holidays to be the opportunity to rest and find each other again. There is therefore a very high expectation around the holidays with often a disappointment that results from it with a feeling of not having rested enough”, explains Camille. Ratchet.

A frustration that is sometimes expressed through tensions within the couple. 

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The psychologist also points to "the time spent together" during the holidays.

The fact of sharing whole days with your other half can, according to her, cause frictions which are expressed at this time of the year but which generally subside in a few weeks. 

Infidelity as the main cause of breakups 

Time spent together also promotes the discovery of compromising secrets.

"In my office, people come a lot for infidelity", testifies Camille Rochet.

"It is often the discovery, during the holidays, of an infidelity through a mobile phone that has been lying around". 

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However, the psychologist wants to be reassuring.

Without going as far as breaking up, it is normal, and even healthy, for couples to go through more troubled times.

"I even worry about couples who arrive and say to me 'it's been 15 years, everything is going great, we've never argued'", admits Camille Rochet.

"It may be a sign that you have not said enough things to yourself," she says.