How to solve it?

Men's “Take only childcare leave” July 14, 16:12

"There are many moms who have a husband who took childcare leave at home and are stressed."

I gave birth to my second child last fall, and I heard these words at the obstetrics and gynecology department.

It was also pointed out that one in three men may be on "childcare leave as much as possible" when interviewing.

Here are some ideas for improving the “quality” of childcare leave.

(Yako Yajima, Director of the International Program Department, Seikei)

My husband took childcare leave, but ...

First of all, we interviewed an information app operating company for women with children registered by about 3 million people.

The bulletin board provided in the app was filled with dissatisfaction and worries about my husband who took childcare leave.

"When I see him sleeping all the time, I want him to go to work sooner."

"I just washed and washed for a few days, and nothing changed."

"Shopping, housework, and care are me .

However, on the contrary, the preparation for lunch has increased and it is difficult. "

“Take only childcare leave” that emerged from the questionnaire

Why are so many people dissatisfied with their husbands who took childcare leave?

It is said that the reason for this appears in the results of a questionnaire conducted with users three years ago at the app operating company.

When I asked about 500 women whose husband had taken childcare leave, "How much did my husband take care of housework and childcare in total per day during childcare leave?", One in three said "less than two hours." I answered.

Furthermore, it was found that when the husband's housework / childcare time is "2 hours or less", the percentage of those who feel unsatisfied with the division of roles of housework / childcare is higher than when the husband does not take childcare leave. I did.

At this company, the situation where there is little time involved in childcare and housework and the couple's satisfaction is low is called "childcare leave", and the survey results point out that one in three men may fall under this category, raising the issue. Continues.

Takahashi, CEO of the app management company "Konehito" "

The theory of society and companies tends to be to improve the acquisition rate, so I am not interested in the content of childcare leave. I am

particular about" quality " .

I would like both couples to take childcare leave that is highly satisfying. "

What kind of childcare leave?

An opportunity to think about "quality"

How can I improve "just take childcare leave"?

What is childcare leave with "quality"?

I decided to look for hints from the efforts of men and companies that actually took childcare leave.

First of all, I would like a chance for the couple to talk about childcare leave.

With that in mind, this "diagnosis chart" was created in June.

We developed men who actually took childcare leave and participated in the private community "ikumado" on SNS, which considers balancing work and childcare.

If you answer YES / NO to questions such as "Are you not good at housework?" Or "Will you wake up immediately after making noise?", The period and image of childcare leave that you should aim for will be suggested as a guide.

There are 6 types of proposals in total.

If the period is as short as about 2 weeks, the couple will overcome the difficult period immediately after birth, "close-up childcare leave", and if it is about 3 months, the "trusted childcare leave" will deepen the bond between the couple through the mountains and valleys every day. ..

Even if there is a desire to take childcare leave, the name is given so that not only the length of the period but also the "quality" can be seen in response to the voice of a man who cannot easily imagine how long and how to spend it. I devised it.

Kosuke Sakata, who was involved in the development of the “diagnosis chart” (takes 8 months of childcare leave)

“It is difficult for men to get a chance to think about or be prepared for childcare leave

. I wanted to create an opportunity to talk. "

Present 3 "missions" to your dad!

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I would like to tell a man who has decided to take childcare leave a concrete method to improve "quality".

There is also a guidebook made with such an aim.

In the guidebook, after giving an easy-to-understand lecture on what can happen after the baby is born with manga etc., three items that are particularly burdensome and tend to play the role of mom are presented as "missions".

1. Take care of basic things such as changing diapers and breastfeeding by staying alone with your baby.

2. Being able to go shopping with your baby and deal with unexpected situations such as sudden crying.

3. Complete everything from bathing to changing clothes and sleeping by yourself.

By using the word "mission", we hope that you will work positively and happily, rather than being disgusted.

The guidebook was created by the operating company of the app that advocates the problem of "take only childcare leave" introduced at the beginning.

In collaboration with local governments, this company is working to popularize guidebooks by holding workshops for couples welcoming children, and has distributed approximately 28,000 books so far.

Apply work "planning book" to childcare leave!

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As I proceeded with the interview, some men said that by applying the "planning book" that they usually use for work to childcare leave, they were able to improve their "quality" while gaining the understanding of those around them.

Tsubasa Ito (38), who works as an engineer at an automobile-related company.

I am raising my wife, Kanae (36), who works as a general manager at a telecommunications company, and two children, 6 and 2 years old.

Mr. Ito took six months of childcare leave, respecting his wife's desire to return to work as soon as possible after the birth of her second child and enhance her future career.

At that time, I created this "Childcare Leave Plan" to organize my thoughts.

The plan describes in detail what you are aiming for through childcare leave, specific plans including taking over work and preparations before taking childcare leave, and how to make use of your childcare leave experience after returning to work. increase.

Mr. Tsubasa Ito "When it comes to

taking childcare leave

, there are many people who are involved in the workplace, including not only myself but also my family and wife.

I thought it was necessary to get them to understand. "

In preparing this proposal, Mr. Ito first consulted with his wife.

When he asked what kind of power he wanted to improve during childcare leave, one of the answers he got back was "the power to manage the whole childcare".

At that time, Mr. Ito left home before 7:00 am and returned home after 21:00, so most of the childcare on weekdays was left to his wife.

I felt like I was raising my child by playing a lot with my child on the weekends, but I didn't know anything about my child's physical condition, belongings, life schedule, etc., and I just did what my wife told me. It is said that he was noticed.

Therefore, in the proposal, the goal is to become a "participant" rather than helping with childcare.

After returning to work, he stated that he would like to gain the strength to be actively involved in childcare even on weekdays.

Mr. Ito's wife, Kanae,

"I think I wasn't convinced even if I was given a proposal saying,'I'm going to do this,' thinking alone, but it also includes what I asked for. I felt serious about it, so I was honestly happy about it. "

Mr. Ito consulted with the people at work about childcare leave while showing this proposal.

By doing so, it was easy to convey why I wanted to take childcare leave, and I heard that I was able to take over specific work smoothly.

When I take childcare leave, I'm more busy than I imagined.

As I had imagined, I sometimes suffered from stress, but by looking back at the proposal before going to bed at night, I was able to spend my time without losing sight of my purpose.

"Daddy on weekdays" ... Life changed after childcare leave

After returning to work, Mr. Ito is changing his working style so that he will always have time for childcare even on weekdays, such as by actively utilizing work at home.

Even on the day I visited for coverage, I finished my work at 5 pm and cooked the tuna fried, which is a favorite of children.

I surrounded the table with four family members and enjoyed playing soccer after eating.

In addition, I am trying to convey my experience of childcare leave and preparations before taking childcare leave through events and seminars so that it will be useful for those who want to have children in the future.

Tsubasa Ito

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In my case, when I was wondering what I should do to be a dad not only on weekends but also on weekdays, my way of thinking about childcare leave and how to spend it changed.

It may be, but I'm telling you that it's important to visualize your goals and communicate with your family and people at work because you can do what you're good at. "

The percentage of men who took childcare leave increased little by little to 12.65% in FY2020 (percentage of men who took childcare leave among men who gave birth to their spouse, according to a survey by the Ministry of Health, Labor and Welfare).

Of these, 28.33% have less than five days of childcare leave.

In April next year, it will be mandatory for companies with more than 1,000 employees to announce the status of taking childcare leave.

However, I don't think the goal is just to improve the acquisition rate.

Through the interview, I felt that it was good for both husband and wife to take it, and I strongly felt that I would like to see more childcare leave that will lead to a balance between work and family after the acquisition.

Yako

Yajima ,

Director of the International Program Department , joined the Hiroshima Bureau in

2009.

After working in Hiroshima Bureau, Good Morning Japan, etc.