"We know how to wait"

34-year-old Yulia Lyubimova was born in the city of Ivanovo.

The girl grew up in a civilian family: her mother worked as a teacher in a kindergarten, and her father conducted telecommunications.

From the military in the family there was an uncle, and later Yulia's brother followed in his footsteps.

“Mom dreamed of marrying a military man, and it turns out that I made her dream come true.

Although I never had such thoughts, ”says Yulia.

While studying at the University of Chemical Technology, when the girl was 19 years old, she met her future husband.

“We were celebrating the end of the session with our girlfriends at the bar, and his friends were at the next table.

Then he entered and slammed the door loudly - naturally, he drew attention to himself.

I turned around, looked into those blue eyes - and immediately fell in love, - Yulia recalls.

“Then we danced with him, and that’s how we met.”

It's been 14 years since the wedding.

The couple has three children and four military garrisons behind them.

“In every city you leave a part of your heart.

Moving is interesting, but at the same time not easy.

Every time to improve life, create comfort and meet new people, - says Yulia.

— But I already have a life hack on how to expand my social circle immediately after moving.

The main place is a playground.

In addition, you need to enroll children in all possible circles and sections, and go yourself, for example, to fitness.

Often military husbands are not at home - this is the specifics of the service.

While the men are in training, on guard duty and on business trips, their wives run the household and raise their children.

No one helps Yulia with her three children: the grandmothers stayed in their hometown.

“I don’t know how I manage to do everything.

But my children are like that, I was lucky with them, everyone has their own responsibilities: someone washes the floor, someone is responsible for the dishes, they can look after my youngest daughter when I need to do my own thing, ”says Lyubimova.

  • Julia Lyubimova

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Despite her colossal employment, she also manages to run her own small business - she makes sugar-free and gluten-free cakes and pastries to order for those who want to eat right.

In her small town, Lyubimova is quite famous - customers come from all over the region for her desserts, and orders continue to come in, despite the restriction of some social networks in Russia.

“In addition to routine things, it is important to do something for yourself, to realize yourself, to be creative and break away from everyday affairs, to get involved in work,” she advises.

The ability to wait is the most important difference between officer wives and others, Lyubimova is convinced.

“We have become accustomed to living in anticipation.

Some officers go to the most dangerous places on our planet, but we take it for granted.

We have to adapt in many situations to circumstances, move from place to place, sometimes it is not easy with employment, with kindergartens and schools.

It builds character.

I have changed a lot over the years, I have an inner core, thanks to which I learned to cope with difficulties.

Each military wife is unique, we are different, with different life stories.

We are a symbol of the hearth.

A husband comes home from work hungry and tired, sometimes angry, and you listen to him, hug him - and peace in his soul is restored.

The wife of an officer is a reliable and loving home front, ”says Yulia.

Now her husband is on a special operation, she has not seen him for more than two months.

It's rare to get in touch by phone.

“I would like to tell my husband, and the other guys who are there now: we are praying for you, we believe in you, that the truth is on our side and that you will definitely do your job and return home.

We love you and are waiting for you, ”she addresses the military.

Officers' wives were a close-knit community even before the special operation, but now each other's support is especially appreciated.

“Our friend gave birth here, and her husband is there and, naturally, could not meet her from the hospital.

We organized ourselves and everyone greeted her with balloons and flowers.

She was very pleased, ”an RT interlocutor gives an example.

"To Be Connected"

Yulia Guliy is 44 years old.

She was born into a military family.

My father finished his service with the rank of colonel, he served as deputy head of the logistics of the Leningrad Military District, and my mother served in an anti-aircraft missile regiment under a contract.

Together with his family and brother, they lived for a long time in the north, in the city of Belogorsk.

Since childhood, Julia has been accustomed to military life: constant moving, changing schools and the frequent absence of her father at home.

  • Yulia Guliy with her husband

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“As a child, my mother, of course, jokingly, said to me: “Marry not a military man!

You see, he is never at home and his homeland comes first.

And when I got older, studying at a pedagogical college, they also joked about us: they say that military wives have teachers or doctors.

I agree with this, because these professions are needed in any military unit, no matter in what corner of Russia it is located, ”says Yulia.

She met her future husband Dmitry when she was still a student, and he was a cadet of the naval school.

“For me, my father has always been an example of a real man.

In addition to the qualities that the military usually possess - reliability and the ability to keep their word - I also liked his accuracy.

Dad was always trimmed, in an ironed form, fit and disciplined.

When I met my husband, the first thing I liked was when he told me that he would call at exactly 12 the next day, and he did, not a minute later, ”she recalls.

Now Julia lives in Moscow with her family.

She has three sons, all continued or are going to continue the dynasty.

The eldest is studying at the Academy of the Ministry of Emergency Situations, the middle one is graduating from the Suvorov School and plans to enter the Naval Academy, and the youngest, a schoolboy, dreams of becoming a military doctor.

Julia says that when the children were small, she had no helpers, her relatives lived in another city.

“It was very disciplined and brought our family together.

I often think about young girls, and to some extent I understand them when, in the event of any quarrel or some kind of misunderstanding, they pack up and go home.

I did not have such an opportunity, and with age I began to understand that I would not have gone to St. Petersburg from Moscow to seek help from my parents.

You should always solve the problem and not make hasty decisions.

You shouldn’t accumulate resentment and you can’t be silent, ”Julia gives advice to the young wives of the military.

Julia herself has been married for 24 years.

Together with Dmitry, they experienced difficult times.

“I can see the officer's wife from afar.

At least by the fact that she can cook dinner even from a crust of bread.

Because it often happened, especially in my youth.

Now the funding for the military is worthy, they feel they are needed by the Motherland.

Although 18 years ago, not everyone was ready to live in difficult conditions.

But we withstood it, ”recalls the interlocutor of RT.

According to Yulia, the secret of a happy marriage is to “be in the same bond with your husband, even in difficult situations, like during the performance of a combat mission, when you are in a clutch with your partner.”

"I'm proud of my husband"

Yulia Lyovkina is 28 years old, she was born in Kazakhstan.

The girl says that her family has nothing to do with military service.

“I never thought that I would marry a military man.

I never dreamed about it, but it happened,” she shares.

  • Yulia Lyovkina with her husband

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She met her future husband Alexei eight years ago on a dating site.

Now the couple lives at the place of service of Alexei, in the Rostov region.

“It seems to me that military men are different from other men.

Alexei has military parents, they are completely different people.

Such composure, discipline, everything is on the shelves.

In my wife, I liked the seriousness, he clearly knew what his intentions were.

He has something that I never found in other guys, ”says Yulia.

Alexey is the commander of a tank company of the 163rd tank regiment of the 150th motorized rifle division.

He took part in a special operation, where he ensured the completion of a combat mission without losses: during the battle he destroyed five tanks and six enemy infantry fighting vehicles.

For this, he was awarded the medal "For Courage", the second in a row in his military career.

After Alexei's departure and until his return, Yulia remained alone at home with a two-month-old baby.

“Of course, I was worried about him, my nerves even lost my milk.

The most exciting thing is when the husband did not get in touch for a long time.

I thought about him all the time: where he is and how he is.

She was constantly on the phone, waiting for a call or message, ”she recalls.

To stay in a normal state and keep calm Yulia, according to her, helped the child and all the troubles associated with it.

Life greatly distracts from sad thoughts.

There is no time to be in a depressed mood when you have both a house and a baby.

And when melancholy rolls in free minutes, then friends come to the rescue.

As is now customary in the military garrisons, which are still empty, the wives try to stick together and support each other.

In the Rostov military town, they organized themselves in messenger chats, collected parcels for their husbands and told if one of the husbands called or wrote to someone.

“I am proud that I am married to a military man.

Of course, I often miss him, the service is very dangerous, this is a real risk to his life.

But he protects the Motherland and all of us.

I am happy that once, while still a 20-year-old girl, I made the right choice, ”says Yulia proudly.