Have you ever stood in front of the mirror to talk to yourself about a problem you had?

Does imagination take you to open a long conversation with yourself as an old friend, to whom you tell your crises frankly without fear, and then notice that you have moved away from reality for a moment and are afraid that you will become “crazy” or have some mental disorder?

Do not talk about the internal dialogue that is going on in your head, but rather talk to yourself out loud.

Rest assured, you are not alone, almost everyone is alone and talking to her as if two people are having a long discussion.

In an article on Psychology Today, psychiatrist Dr. Timothy Legge says that this habit often begins in childhood.

Even if you don't see anything wrong with talking to yourself (and you really shouldn't, you may wonder what other people think, especially if you often find yourself thinking out loud at work or at the grocery store rather than just being alone."

Talking to yourself is normal, even if you do it often.

If you'd like to be more mindful about talking to yourself so you can avoid doing it in certain situations, here are some tips that can help you.

Helps you find what you are looking for

According to studies, saying the name of whatever you're looking for out loud can help you locate it more easily than just thinking about it.

The authors suggest that this works because hearing the name of the item reminds your brain of what you're looking for.

This helps you to visualize and notice it more easily.

Saying the name of whatever you are looking for aloud can help you locate it more easily (pixels)


Talking out loud helps you stay focused.


When you feel stuck or challenged to achieve the tasks you're aiming for, a little positive self-talk can motivate you. These words of encouragement usually have more weight when you say them out loud rather than just thinking about them.

However, research from 2014 suggests that this type of self-motivation works best when you talk to yourself in the first person.

In other words, don't say, "I can totally do that."

But say, "You're doing a great job. You've already accomplished a lot."

Speaking aloud helps overcome difficult and negative emotions (Shutterstock)

Negative emotions treatment

If you're struggling with difficult and negative emotions, speaking up can help you explore them more carefully.

Some feelings and experiences are so personal that you may not feel ready to share them with anyone, even a trusted loved one.

Taking some time to sit down to manage these feelings can help you release them, and separate potential fears from more realistic ones.

While you can do this in your head or on paper, saying things out loud can help make them a reality.

Expressing feelings also helps you validate and come to terms with them.

This, in turn, can reduce its negative impact on you.

How do you get the most out of talking to yourself?

Self-talk can certainly be a powerful tool for promoting mental health and cognitive function.

However, you may want to use it correctly.

These tips can help you maximize the benefits of self-talk.

Only positive words

Although self-criticism may seem like a good option for holding yourself accountable and staying on the right track, it usually doesn't do you any good.

Blaming yourself or talking harshly to yourself can affect your motivation and confidence, which won't do you any good.

However, paraphrasing negative self-talk can help.

Even if you haven't yet succeeded in achieving your goal, acknowledge the work you've already done and praise your efforts.

Instead of saying, "You're not doing enough. You'll never get it done," say, "You put a lot of effort into this. This takes time, but you can definitely get it done. Just keep working."

Words like “I am strong,” “I am loved,” and “I can face my fears today” can help you feel more confident (Shutterstock)

Whatch out

Talking to yourself, especially when you're nervous or trying to figure something out, and examining your feelings and knowledge of the situation can help.

But it won't help much if you don't really listen to what you have to say.

You know yourself better than anyone else, so try to tune in to this awareness when you feel upset, upset, or uncertain.

Avoid the first person

Affirmations can be a great way to motivate yourself and boost positivity, but don't forget to stick to the second person.

Words such as "I am strong," "I am loved," and "I can face my fears today," can help you feel more confident.

But, when you phrase it as if you were talking to someone else, it may be easier for you to believe it.

This can really make a difference if you struggle with self-compassion and want to improve your self-esteem.

Instead, try saying, "You are strong," "You are loved," or "You can face your fears today."

keep your thoughts

If talking to yourself sometimes makes you embarrassed, such as talking loudly in the workplace.

Writing down thoughts, feelings, or anything you want to explore can help you brainstorm with yourself about potential solutions or tasks to be accomplished.

Writing things down may allow you to look at them again later.

Keep a journal with you and write down your immediate thoughts.

Writing down thoughts or feelings helps you brainstorm with yourself about potential solutions (pixels).

distract yourself

If you really need to remain calm and do not want to lose control of this habit in front of others;

Try chewing gum or sucking on hard candy.

Sometimes having something in your mouth can remind you not to speak loudly.

But in any case, try not to feel embarrassed.

Even if you don't notice, most people talk to themselves, at least occasionally.