When a man leaves his wife for another woman, she usually thinks it is because of her faults, shortcomings, and mistakes.
She often thinks of the things she lacks that would make him stay if she had them, like youth, glow, and interest.
But is it really your fault?
It's not your fault
According to The Guardian, letting your husband leave you for another woman is his responsibility, it's his decision, and you should never turn it on yourself to wonder if you did something wrong to make him make that decision.
It is enough that this decision brings many psychological troubles.
"Whether you've been with your husband for a year or 30, you both change every day," says writer Lachlan Brown on HackSpirit.
This brings with it inevitable bumps in the road.
Some of these bumps can be easily treated, but others take a lot of time and patience.
And in some cases, these bumps can end the marriage completely.
Sometimes the decision comes unilaterally to end the marriage journey.
You shouldn't jump on your pain too quickly and act as if nothing had happened (Pixels)
Why did he leave me?
Brown puts forward a few reasons. The first is that she may have married him young and then things have changed over time.
The second reason is that your marriage was already suffering from many problems, and instead of dealing with marital problems, some men prefer to escape from them, by entering a whole new world without problems or inconveniences.
The third and hardest reason is that he may not love you anymore, even though you may still be attached to him and the people that bind you together.
Will my husband continue with the second woman?
Whether or not you want him back, you may be wondering whether or not this new relationship will last?
However, real experience is what will answer this question.
For some men, when they turn to a second woman to enjoy some modern happiness, they discover when things calm down and the facts are clear that it is not what they want.
And for some other men, they may find themselves much happier in this new relationship, having found what they were looking for and needing.
When will the pain go away?
It is important to realize that you are really sad about the loss that you have suffered and that this condition will take some time to recover from, and you should not jump on your pain too quickly and act as if nothing had happened.
Give yourself space to grieve, and accept what happened so that you can truly move on with your life and be successful again.
It may be tempting to blame the "other woman", but in most cases it will only make matters worse.
Will I forgive him?
It's up to you if you choose to forgive your spouse, but what you should know is that forgiveness takes time and can be your way to healing.
Forgiveness does not mean forgetting what he did to you or condoning his actions, but it will simply turn you from a victim to an empowered person.
Hence it can be an important part of recovering from what you have been through, as life without forgiveness is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and revenge.
A life without forgiveness is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and revenge (Pixaby)
How do I tell the children?
If you have children, this can certainly make things more difficult.
You may be wondering what you can tell them?
The simple truth is that they should be told what is going on, but the details are up to you and the age of the children.
Just keep it simple and try not to show your feelings and anger towards your husband or impose those feelings on them.
Do I accept to come back to me again?
You are the only person who can answer this question.
Your answer depends on a number of different factors such as Do you still love him?
Was your marriage good before your husband went?
Will you be able to trust him again?
Will you be able to get past this?
It is important that you take the time to think about your opinions and feelings.
How do I get back on track?
Sometimes even if your husband is attached to another woman, the marriage does not have to end.
And if you want to, there are ways to help such as:
Be patient,
it's very tempting to threaten and yell at him until he comes back, but that won't work, you both need some time to heal and realize what's missing between you.
Control your emotions
Don't be confused and irritable as you are easily called "crazy ex-wife".
Give him some distance.
Keeping your distance and being civil keeps the door open if you decide to come back.
Asking for help
You can seek counseling as a way to solve your problems and get your marriage back on the right track.
It is also important to know the cause that led to the problem in the first place.
You can seek counseling as a way to solve your problems and get your marriage back on the right track (pixels)
What should i do now?
This question is the most difficult, as despair can easily control you, which will turn your life into chaos.
And it can be hard to continue living the same way you were before.
But most importantly, is to make sure that you take care of yourself emotionally.
Here are some tips to help you move forward in your life.
Do not close the door on yourself and your sad feelings, you can ask to go out or break up with your best friend, and you can even cry in front of those you feel comfortable with from your relatives.
If you have children, it may be helpful to get help looking after them during this time.
Having friends and family around you will not only relieve your pain, but your children's pain as well.
It's time to let go of those hopes and dreams so you can move on with your life.
The more time you spend wanting to get your old life back, the less time you will spend living in the present.