Victim of domestic violence, Charlotte has launched a support committee to free speech

Europe 1 17:34, 04 November 2021

TESTIMONY

After having suffered for many years domestic violence from her ex-husband, Charlotte, 26, created a support committee for free speech in Pont-Audemer in the Eure. The young woman confided in Olivier Delacroix's microphone in

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“I experienced domestic violence for several years. It was very difficult for me to find support and help. It started early, I had my daughter with me, I met a young man during of an evening. Everything started well. And then at the end of two or three months: a first argument which starts in slap. He slams the door and comes back with a bouquet of flowers. He apologizes by saying that it will never happen again. . And it starts again. It does not stop. We make a habit, unfortunately.

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I couldn't tell when this was going to happen.

It could be because of a coffee that was not hot in the morning.

It was unpredictable.

It is linked to the difficult youth he may have had.

He lost his brother.

He has experienced family conflicts.

His mom should have taken him to a psychologist when he was little.

He was in distress and unfortunately he must have had a psychological problem that marked him.

I haven't been divorced for long.

It was I who wanted to get married.

I still can't figure out why.

Maybe because of the fear of failure.

I had my family, my home, my job, I was afraid to start from scratch.

But ultimately, by dint of taking blows ... 

"A slap should never be given"

It's hard to find things that help us. There was no support committee in Pont-Audemer. It was complicated to find a solution to leave. We are afraid, we do not know where to go. We don't know how to do it. I always said to myself that I should have left from the start. A slap should never be given. Eventually, it just got worse and worse. We always feel guilty. We feel ugly, bad, we say to ourselves that we deserve this. We have to get out of there.

I had called the gendarmerie several times and hung up. And one day my son told me 'we're going'. So we left. I called the gendarmerie, but I did not hang up. They came to get us. I did not want to file a complaint. But as it had been several times, the judge of Évreux decided on a forced removal of six months and it is thanks to these six months that I realized that it was no longer possible, that it was not normal.

We are the same age.

I have three children with him.

Basically, the court did not want him to see his children, I opposed this judgment because he never harmed his children.

It's complicated for some people to understand, but I made the difference.

He sees his children every other Sunday, so I see him regularly.

He sees a shrink, he is followed.

It seems to be okay.

We don't talk to each other.

"The committee is like a shrink session"

It's been three years since I got out of there.

Thanks to several Miss competitions, I was able to make my voice heard and I am launching my committee from November 19.

The committee is like a big shrink session where we all help each other out, break the silence, never be alone.

Especially not, otherwise I don't think I would be here today.

If I hadn't met someone, I think unfortunately, like all women, I would have had a hard time leaving.

There are a lot of women who come to me privately.

I think there will be a lot of people.

On November 19, I will tell my story.

Sometimes when you listen to a woman who confides, you say to yourself 'hey, we're the same' and that really helps others to be able to cope.

If I can help them, I would do it as much as possible.

The committee will take place every third Friday of the month.

I can be reached on 07 89 98 74 39. What I want to establish is trust, moral support.

I will be there so that the victims are not alone. "