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Joy in name only, a night like any night, but in official papers it is the night of a lifetime, but in reality it is the night of the pain of a lifetime. This is what a bride suffers from whose circumstances forced her to marry alone. She was neither happy nor saw joy in the eyes of her family.

The estrangement, despite its cruelty, threw a dream boy in their way, so they had to marry without family, friends, or the joy of ululating.. This compulsion was a hope for someone who would carry with them the bitterness of alienation.

Ayat Muhammad, a pseudonym for a girl in her twenties, says, "My name was included in the state security files after my graduation because I worked in the press, and after 2013 and with the wave of arrests of journalists and opponents, I found that I had no choice but to leave Egypt, and my family encouraged me to take this step, because they feared me from a wave of arrests." The arrests were and still affect everyone, so I prepared my papers for travel.”

Ayat adds to Al Jazeera Net, "I was not used to being away from my family even during my university studies. I was next to my family. I don't remember ever being away from them. The idea of ​​traveling was unexpected. Traveling was the first experience of loneliness and to live alone, so my psychological state worsened just because I took this step, When I prepared to travel, I often evaded the eyes of my family, I was engaged before traveling and my fiancé was outside Egypt as well. It was difficult to attend my family to share my happiness at my wedding, so there was no escape from marriage without them, because I wanted stability and someone shared my loneliness, to support me in my estrangement."

And Ayat continued, "The day before the wedding night I spent in tears, I can't describe this feeling, I chose the wedding dress alone, and I wore it alone without the help of my mother and my friends, I spoke with my family via video calls and we cried a lot, my little sister collapsed, she never imagined that she would not attend my wedding ".

Ayat says, "The wedding night, I was smiling a fake smile. At that moment, I learned that orphanhood does not mean losing your parents only. There is another aspect of orphanhood that your parents are alive and not with you. There are people who prevent you from meeting and sharing the happiest moments of your life. After the wedding is over. I went home. I called my mother and we cried and asked her what crime she committed to make us suffer like this. Until now, when I look at my wedding photos, I cry. There is sadness and loss in the eyes of that bride. I only wanted a normal wedding, and with every wedding I attend, the pain and sadness is renewed and I cry and pity all A girl marries away from her family.

The participation of family and friends in choosing a wedding dress is the dream of every girl, but some are deprived of achieving this dream (Al-Jazeera)

Escape and detention at Incheon Airport

The story of Zainab Abdel Ghani began when she was arrested, against the background of political activity.

Zainab says, "I was tortured by the Egyptian authorities, and after I was released, the case was referred to trial and I was sentenced to two years in prison."

Zainab added, "I thought about traveling immediately for my fiancé, who resides in South Korea, as he left Egypt because he is facing a verdict on the background of his political activity. At first, my family rejected the idea of ​​traveling because it was difficult for me to stay away from them. But in the end they agreed.

And about the details of the day of travel, Zainab tells, “I cried a lot and was afraid that I would be arrested at the airport, and after I stayed at the Korean Incheon Airport for 10 days, an investigation so that I could enter the country, my psychological state was so bad, that when they allowed me to enter the country I wore the wedding dress in "Airport toilet", I put cosmetics on myself.

“My wedding was not a wedding,” Zainab said, adding, “My husband came to the airport to pick me up after the government agreed to let me enter the country after I was under stress for 10 days and threatened with deportation. He deported me and my grief to the state I reached without my will.”

And Zainab added, "On the day of the delivery, my psychological state was very bad, so I was crying because I did not find anyone beside me except my Korean friend, and this psychological state resulted in me falling into a coma and I was awakened by artificial respiration."

Choosing a life partner has the same problems

Samar Mahmoud (a pseudonym) left Egypt after she was released from prison and had to travel after being threatened with imprisonment for the second time, according to her description. Despite the state of shock experienced by her family, they encouraged her to travel, in order to live in safety.

Samar tells Al Jazeera Net, "I got to know my fiancé through friends of ours, as he was in a country other than the one in which I live, and we decided to link up. It was a big turning point from the desperate exit from Egypt from life and I saw it black for a simple light that gave me hope for life for my second half who has the same thinking and the same Problems, the idea here has shifted from me bearing all my problems alone to a partner who bears the burden of alienation together. It never occurred to me to get married without my family sharing my joy, but my husband was kind to me and understood that point because he is also far from his family due to a political problem and he was not thinking about Marriage is far from them, but in the end we managed to get past that point."

And Samar continued, "We did all the preparations for the wedding, we did it alone, no one with us shared that joy and that fatigue, and whenever the wedding day approaches, I cry because I'm alone and away from my family, my fiancé and I arrange everything for the wedding alone, I know that it is a tax and it must be paid, I am not the one who felt that Sadness only, but also my husband, he misses his family and friends, on our wedding day we were talking and crying."

Loneliness away from people who share feelings and special occasions such as marriage increases the feeling of alienation (Pixabe)

forced exile

Dr. Aida Seif Al-Dawla, director of the Nadeem Center for Rehabilitation of Victims of Violence and Torture, says, "Forcing alienation in itself is very painful, and being away from people who share feelings and special occasions, such as marriage, increases the feeling of alienation, which is a very difficult thing."

Dr. Mahmoud Ismail, a specialist in psychiatry, neurology and addiction, explained, "We must admit that the best thing about this is that the parents know about the matter (marriage), and share their joy, even through social media programs, and it is also good for the girl to choose her life partner without pressure. from anyone, even if that marriage was far from the family.

Ismail added, "There are suggested solutions that young people should follow under these circumstances, which is not to raise the ceiling of expectations and not to look forward to obtaining ordinary dreams, especially in unusual circumstances, and we must prepare psychologically and know that no one gets everything, and all friends and family should be careful to Providing continuous psychological support to those who have experienced such experiences.