Over time, and in many cases, things do not remain the same after marriage. The spouses may feel neglected, the partner’s distance, and perhaps some neglect and loneliness, as well as a lack of flirtation, pleasant compliments, sweet talk, and gifts, of course.
You may wonder to yourself if your partner still loves you and wants to spend time with you.
Where did the love disappear from your marriage?
Although it may seem like it, love has not completely disappeared from your marriage but simply developed.
Often, with the passage of time, the intensity of the affection that the couple felt for each other diminishes greatly.
There are many reasons for this. According to an article by Pearl Nash, a family and marital writer, you may be both busy with family obligations and responsibilities, children may have become a top priority in your life, or perhaps one or both of you have turned their attention to financial goals in order to make your family life secure.
Perhaps your communication gap has widened due to work or family commitments, you both don't have time to spend hours in each other's company, your expectations for married life may not be met, or you both have become so familiar with each other that there is nothing new or exciting to explore.
In married life, you both have to realize that a relationship requires maintenance and a long-term commitment, and if both of you don't make an effort to maintain communication and bonding, you'll feel like you're already in an unfinished relationship.
Courtship and gifts are not just for engaged and newlyweds (Shutterstock)
Here are some tips provided by Bonobology that can help you restore the glow of your love:
The 10 minute rule
The 10-minute rule is a term coined by American relations expert Terry Urbuch in her book Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great, saying that 10 minutes is the greatest routine a couple can get into.
According to Birch, the rule is to spend 10 minutes a day with your spouse talking about anything except children, chores, chores or household responsibilities. What good thing do you remember from the beginning of our relationship?
If you could change one thing in the world, what would it be?
The idea here is to chat about something that is not routine and interesting and creates an ongoing dialogue between the two of you.
Attention to intimacy
The success of the intimate relationship between spouses is one of the most important things that make couples happy, so you must make sure that everything is fine in this regard.
Appreciate the things he does for you
Either party may get used to the valuable things your partner does for the other, but it's only fair for one of you to tell the other that he is grateful for the things he gives him.
The communication gap between spouses widens due to work or family commitments (pixels)
continuous spinning
Flirting is not only for engaged and newlyweds.
You can still send a fun text over the phone, or say his/her favorite love words that will go a long way in bringing love and romance back into your marriage.
Sharing hobbies
If you care about the things that make your partner happy, sharing one of his favorite hobbies like playing sports or going to the club with him is a good way to show how much you love him.
Encouraging to go out with friends
A wife who is able to give her husband the feeling that he still has his own space and that he is able to connect with his friends at any time will surely get her husband's attention and not feel that he is straying from her all the time.
Knowing when to stop and take a step back is essential in married life (Pixels)
Solve problems first
Instead of closing down and feeling angry, solving problems immediately, through communication and calm dialogue, indicates maturity and wisdom and contributes to the continuation of beautiful feelings between the spouses.
resort to it
When you are facing a difficult situation, reach out to your husband, and ask his opinion on what you should do.
Men like to trust them and turn to them in difficult times.
Avoid complaining to others
Complaining from the husband to others often results in feelings of inflamation and more anger, instead prove that forgiveness and focus on a happy life in the future is what makes your marriage successful.
Understand the differences
You and your spouse are two different personalities who got married to spend their lives together, so it is normal for differences to appear in your married life, and instead of fighting over these differences, you both need to internalize them and understand that this is normal.
It is normal for differences to appear in your married life and instead of fighting over these differences, you both need to understand them (Pixels)
Elegance and not comfort sometimes in choosing clothes
After marriage, you may have changed your wardrobe to prioritize comfort over style and cuteness.
This is a completely normal phenomenon and most women do this over time.
However, it won't hurt to bring a little sparkle back into your wardrobe.
Avoid attempts to change
It's hard for people to change, and when someone continues to pressure them to change, they usually walk away.
So pay attention to what you say to your husband. If you're talking to him all the time, "You should do this" or "I don't like your style," it's time to stop.
Take a step back
Knowing when to stop and take a step back is essential in married life, especially when you're arguing about certain things.
When the situation between the two of you turns crazy sometimes, it is important for someone to remain sane and handle things in a better way rather than shouting at each other.
Turn it around in your favor by dealing wisely, this is a smart move from you.
Expressing love with words and gestures
Love words and gestures have the power to impress anyone.
Therefore, the couple should express love with words or gestures so that neither party suffers emotional deprivation.
You should also avoid hurting with harsh words, especially at the time of disagreement and fight.
Praise in front of others
When you praise your husband in front of others, this definitely conveys to him your love and trust in him, and if you criticize your life partner in front of others, this is considered a strict rejection of him.
So it is better to talk about the good things that your husband/wife represents in front of family and friends and this will contribute to the improvement of your relationship a lot.