Runaway teenagers with improperly educated parents
February 20 is the ninth day of the first month of the lunar calendar. The festive atmosphere of the Spring Festival is still continuing. However, Ms. Chen from Fangchenggang City, Guangxi is in great pain. Her 13-year-old daughter left without saying goodbye and took a train to a place more than 1,500 kilometers away. Unfamiliar netizens meet.
A touching inter-provincial tracing was carried out tensely. Fortunately, the family was finally reunited two days later after a relay search by the three-place railway police.
China Youth Daily and China Youth Daily reporters combed and found that as of mid-March, this year there were nearly 50 incidents of minors running away from home publicly reported by the media.
The reasons why these teenagers ran away from home are mostly related to conflicts with their families caused by playing games, online dating, and poor studies.
The rebellion of adolescence, the temptation of online games, unrealistic fantasies of unfamiliar netizens, and improper family education methods have contributed to a series of heartbreaking parents' farewells.
Three railway police relays to find girls away from home
On the evening of February 20th, when Ms. Chen returned home from her relatives and was about to greet the family for dinner, she found that the eldest daughter Xiaoyou was missing.
At first she didn't take it seriously, thinking that her daughter had gone out to play with her classmates. When the daughter was late at night and no one answered the phone, Ms. Chen felt that something was wrong.
Suddenly recalling a detail, Ms. Chen felt the seriousness of the matter.
That afternoon, the eldest daughter asked her for an ID card, saying that the school needed to fill in materials.
Ms. Chen took it out to her. Unexpectedly, this was her daughter preparing for a journey of thousands of kilometers.
The next day, Ms. Chen and her husband came to the police station at Fangchenggang North Station of the Beihai Railway Public Security Department to call the police.
Police on duty, Wei Dongping, found out through information retrieval that their daughter Xiaoyou had already taken the train to Liuzhou at 18:00 the evening before, and then changed trains in Liuzhou to Wuchang, Hubei, and was about to transfer to train K804 from Wuchang. Take a ride to Ankang, Shaanxi.
After urgently contacting the police station at Wuchang Railway Station, the police confirmed that Xiaoyou had boarded train K804, but at that time the door was closed and the train was about to depart. It was too late for the police at the station to get on the train to intercept the train.
Knowing that this train was on duty by the Fuzhou Railway Public Security Department, Wei Dongping immediately contacted the police and conductor of the train through relevant channels.
Soon, the police officer, Shang Jiawei, confirmed the location of Xiaoyou in the car and learned that his whereabouts were found. Xiaoyou was a little agitated and asked her many questions without cooperating to answer. She was only asked where her parents were. Spit out the two words "Guangxi".
When she learned that her daughter was going to Shaanxi by train, Ms. Chen was so frightened that her legs became weak.
Many years ago, it happened that the neighbor's child was deceived to another place around her. After a few years, when the daughter came back, she had become the child's mother. "When I think about this, I can't sleep all night."
Despite knowing the whereabouts of their daughter, Ms. Chen and his wife are still very worried.
The conductor of the K804 train told them that from Wuchang to Ankang, the train would stop at many stations along the way. The girl was most afraid of where the girl would sneak off the train and slip away, so she must be watched.
To this end, the conductor also took Xiaoyou to the dining car to look after him.
In order to receive the child as soon as possible, Ms. Chen and his wife drove overnight from Fangchenggang City, Guangxi to Ankang, Shaanxi, more than 1,500 kilometers away.
At 6:50 on February 22, the train arrived at Ankang Station. Under the coordination of the railway police, the train officer transferred Xiaoyou to the Ankang Railway Station Police Station of Ankang Railway Public Security for supervision.
When Huang Kaiyang, a police officer from the Ankang Railway Station Police Station, received Xiaoyou early in the morning, he found that this young girl from southwest Guangxi was wearing only a thin coat. At that time, the temperature in Ankang was less than 10 degrees Celsius, and the girl was shivering with cold.
After receiving Xiaoyou from the police station, the leader specially arranged for Xu Jing, a young female police officer, to take care of her, and asked her what she would like to eat, but she said not to eat; she was silent when chatting with her.
Later, a policeman played the game with her for a while, and she said a few words about the content of the game.
After repeated communication, Xiaoyou told the truth. During the Chinese New Year, he played online games at home and had a quarrel with his parents. Later, he chatted with a netizen online and met in Ankang.
At 18:00 on February 22, after a long non-stop trek, Ms. Chen and his wife finally saw their daughter who had been away from home for two days at the Ankang Railway Station Police Station.
The rift in the parent-child relationship is not a day's cold
Although it was impulsive for her daughter to run away from home, Ms. Chen recalled afterwards that the rift in the relationship between her daughter and her parents was not a cold day.
13-year-old Xiaoyou is the eldest daughter of Ms. Chen. This family lives in a remote town with 3 children.
Xiaoyou often complained that his parents stopped loving her after they gave birth to a second daughter. Later, when a younger brother was born, she was even more neglected. Sometimes he lost his temper and said that the family didn’t want her. When he talked about his brother at home, he always said "your son." .
Due to poor academic performance and love to play mobile phones and online games, Xiaoyou often clashed with his father. His father, who had a bit of a rude personality, liked to do it when he became angry. Unexpectedly, Xiaoyou not only failed to subdue, but instead cherished grievances.
Ms. Chen, who works in an insurance company and is also a part-time food and beverage delivery service, said frankly that she seldom accompanies her children because she is too busy at work.
The three children are taken care of by grandparents. She and her husband are desperately making money to support the family, hoping to create better learning conditions for the children.
"Usually there are many places where money is used, and tuition for 3 children is very expensive. My second daughter spent more than 1,000 yuan on tuition for 10 days of English during the holidays. I am not well-educated, so I can't teach it." Ms. Chen some Helpless.
On the evening of February 21, after Ms. Chen and his wife called the police, they learned that their daughter was on the train. The two of them tried to contact her daughter by phone or WeChat, but Xiaoyou did not answer after dozens of calls.
My dad apologized to her on WeChat and said that my parents were wrong, and we no longer use violence when you come back, but my daughter directly blocked my dad.
When meeting his parents at the police station of Ankang Railway Station, Xiao You said nothing.
The police asked if the person in front of her was her parents, and Xiao Youcai nodded.
On the way back, Xiaoyou told her parents that they usually don't allow her to make friends and don't care about her feelings. She once thought about suicide. This time she left because she wanted to stay away from them and didn't want to be controlled by her parents.
"I realized that her heart is closed to us." Ms. Chen said frankly that she had rarely communicated with her children before. Looking back now, her usual discipline to her daughter is free for her in her eyes. "Rough interference."
Ms. Chen once found out that among the friends Xiaoyou had with are middle school students who were unmarried and conceived, as well as "little elder sisters" in mixed society. Because she was worried that bad teenagers in society would bring bad children, she forbid her daughters to interact with these people. I told my daughter that I can socialize with classmates who study well in the class, but she said that those classmates don't play with her."
Unknowingly, family education with poor methods has pushed children to the Internet and strange netizens.
Afterwards, Ms. Chen learned from Xiaoyou's friends that the reason why her daughter wanted to go to Ankang was to meet a 19-year-old Ankang male netizen through online games.
This male netizen added many girls' WeChat accounts through the game.
Before Xiaoyou ran away from home, the male netizen taught her on WeChat how to take the ID card to find him. He also said that he would be free from bullying and freedom.
Make minors aware of the danger of running away from home
"Our station often receives police information about minors running away from home." Huang Kaiyang, a policeman from the Ankang Railway Station Police Station, told a reporter from China Youth Daily and China Youth Daily that these children have something in common: their personality is more introverted, and they are given by their families. Care and love are relatively lacking, and they often run away after making friends from other places through the Internet.
But they don't know what they will encounter or who they will encounter.
In fact, many minors rush away from home to meet with netizens without realizing the risks they may face, including being trafficked and defrauded.
On January 10 this year, a police officer in Shandong found a 13-year-old girl in a train on a train. After learning that she was going to meet a strange netizen, he asked her: "Is there no danger? Are you not afraid?"
"not afraid!"
When the police persuaded the girl to find unfamiliar netizens, she might face unforeseen danger, but the girl replied: "It's my business whether it's dangerous or not. I go if I want to. This is my personal right."
The Shunde Helping and Education Group of Liuzhou Public Security Division of Nanning Railway Public Security Bureau has long been engaged in the work of ideological and moral education for young people.
Xie Junrong, the head of the help and education team, observed that with the popularization of mobile phones and the popularity of online games and social software in recent years, minors’ indulging in games and online dating have increased. It is easy to frustrate their self-esteem due to strict parental discipline or to let it go. It forms a self-willed personality. Once the needs are not met, it is easy to get angry and induce aggressive behavior. Running away from home is a typical aggressive behavior of adolescents.
"For minors under the age of 18, choosing to run away from home often brings a game of playing with their parents." Xie Junrong said, because minors cannot fight their parents at all levels, so only Relying on their own departure, let the parents experience the loss, and then return to the family again to improve their status or achieve their goals.
However, if you rush out to meet strange netizens, you may face the risks of being trafficked, cheated, or getting bad habits. Even eating and drinking cannot be guaranteed. The result is often to hurt your parents and punish yourself.
Xie Junrong suggested that the whole society should strengthen education to let young people understand the harm to themselves and their families caused by running away from home.
When a child has an aggressive behavior, parents should not be one-sidedly beat or scold or blame themselves. Instead, they should find ways to find out the cause, and then help the child avoid the aggressive behavior as much as possible, understand and respect the child, and communicate more.
"It is necessary to care for the children, but also not just to accommodate; it is necessary to guide, but not to let go of principle issues."
China Youth Daily·China Youth Daily reporter Xie Yang Source: China Youth Daily