It has never happened that humans have ever agreed on a single formula for love, or set specific rules for it, as each relationship is unique, and each person experiences the experience of love in a different way, and deals with it according to his culture.
But it remains that the correct one is that love means that another person makes you soar and shine and you feel happiness and inner peace, and that your love should make you feel comfortable, strong, courageous and raise your self-confidence.
The basis of any relationship is trust and respect, and it does not exist in the absence of one or both of them.
And because many of the common misleading ideas about love are romantic, they are actually "potentially very toxic", according to Margarida Viett, a family therapist at the University of Seville.
Here we will review 20 of the most common misconceptions.
1. Love at first sight
What happens at first sight may be just dazzle or admiration.
As for love, it is a mutual feeling that requires time, hard work, acceptance and harmony, and it "arises from mutual appreciation and trust."
2. Your feeling of jealousy means that you are crazy about me
Insane jealousy is not love, but may be a sign of an obsessive disorder that needs help that "reveals a deep feeling of insecurity and low self-esteem," according to the specialist.
3. After I won you you became mine
People are not possessions, and nobody likes to be possessed. This is called "obsessive love."
And the feeling of winning your partner should go on with every sort of day without thinking about owning it.
4. You don't love me because you didn't call me
Lack of connection does not necessarily mean that the other person is not interested, as love goes deeper into getting to know and discover the other person over time, not just through contact.
5. My other half is somewhere
Don't live waiting for something, be truly complete, you don't need to wait for someone else to feel complete.
6. Love means doing everything together
There is no doubt that doing activities together is wonderful, but to love someone, it means that you give him the freedom to live his life and do things alone or with his family or friends.
Everyone needs individuality sometimes.
7. How do you claim my love and not be with me always?
If someone really loves another person, they will make time to be with them even if they are busy, but no one is available all the time.
Allocating time for your partner is not a condition for love (networking sites)
8. .. You criticize me and blame me
One of the distorted ideas about love is that it prevents criticism or blame, but it is certain that constant courtesy and adulation do not help.
9. Do whatever I say if you love me
Loving another person does not make them submissive to you.
Yes, he can respect your desires, needs, and priorities, but without sacrificing his interests, dreams, and goals either.
10. Love means that there are no differences
Having differences between you and your loved one is a healthy thing, as both of you learn to respect the other's personality, but "when the differences affect principles, values, and lifestyle, it may be difficult to maintain the relationship."
11. It is possible to love without confidence
The foundation of a healthy relationship is honesty, respect, and trust.
"If you cannot trust the other person, you can never love him and give him yourself and your life."
12. Quarreling means we don't like
Life is not without some controversy, especially when feelings are intense, but the important thing is to try to remain calm and listen to the point of view of the other, in order to avoid quarrels.
13. Our love does not change
Love is changeable as anything in life. "If it is healthy and nourished well, it will grow and become stronger over time, even if it goes through some turns."
Love is changeable as anything in life (pixels)
14. Not to express oneself for fear of losing it
“Love requires transparency, truth, respect and dignity.” If you hide aspects of your personality to prevent hurting or scaring the other party, life will turn into a prison, not love.
15. Love means suffering
Human relations are like life, not without difficult moments, but love was not created for the sake of torture and suffering, on the contrary, "You should never feel that love is a constant burden on you."
16. We are not well together as a couple
If the spouses did not feel a sense of belonging to each other and were still struggling to save their relationship, instead of spending a happy time together, "love will probably not return, and the absence of affection will only increase the distance between them."
17. Link is enough to be happy
There are millions of people in the world who are related, but they do not feel love or happiness. "In many cases, we find people who relate just because they are afraid of being alone."
18. The desire for stability forces you to continue
Fear of the unknown, feelings of guilt, anxiety about what others will say, belief that lack of love is not a sufficient reason to end the experience, and a sense of insecurity about the future are all reasons why we do not have enough courage to end a bad relationship. The losses of our continuation in it may be greater.
19. I must pressure myself to save the relationship
It would not be beneficial to give someone more than their energy, rather it could lead to imbalance in the relationship and increase the mismatch in love and giving, and it becomes difficult to save the relationship.
20. One-sided love
A healthy relationship requires that both parties love each other on an equal footing. As for the love that we do not feel or that the other does not feel, it is not possible to exchange it.
According to the Viet family specialist.