Many parents strive to provide their children with an ideal life as they can;
However, no family together wants to raise a spoiled child. On the contrary, everyone dreams of raising children who will endure the vicissitudes of time and are able to face the days with what they carry in terms of good or evil.
But aspirations do not always come true. Some educational mistakes that parents make themselves create selfish children, which psychologists have interpreted with what is called "the spoiled child syndrome."
The psychotherapist, Frederick Newman, says that the distinguishing feature of a spoiled child is that he is not committed at all to what the family determines in terms of food dates, family meetings, and the constant desire to distinguish from others, and he always seems happy to go against adults, so simply we can raise a spoiled child;
To find out too late that we are living with a spoiled adult.
Psychologists have identified 9 signs as a measure of the spoiled child syndrome. If you find it in your child, you should rethink the parenting method that you follow with him.
1- Be courteous to others
The child deals with others in a courteous manner always, thanking everyone and appreciating what they offer him.
But with his family, things are completely different, perhaps that sometimes happens unintentionally, or he may feel that he permanently deserves the gifts and donations of his parents, and then he does not see a motive to give thanks.
This is what psychologists warn about, as this is the shortest way to raise a young man who is not grateful to those around him.
2- He avoids household chores
From the age of three, parents should train their children to do some simple tasks appropriate for their age, and at the age of ten, they begin to help with cooking, washing, and larger tasks that suit their age. If all attempts to accustom the child to do these tasks have failed, then know that your child has reached an unacceptable extent. From pampering and abnormal upbringing.
The values of gratitude and gratitude to parents should be inculcated in a child from a young age (pixels)
3- He does not get along with his peers
When interacting with other children, the child does not realize that he must be sensitive to their needs and listen to theirs.
Therefore, the constant lack of empathy for his peers makes friends tend to reject your child in the group.
If you see your child isolated from his peers, and always blaming them, you have to look carefully for the reasons for this, as perhaps his exaggeration in pampering him spoiled his character, until friends turned away from him.
4- Unexplained outbursts of anger
Here it is necessary to distinguish between a tantrum for a small child and the bad behavior of a spoiled child, so if your child reaches school age and is still dealing with rejection of his requests with a fit of crying and screaming and lying on the floor, and rejecting your repeated signals that this is a wrong method, and if he feels his victory when you are tired and tired of discussion So you agreed to his request, it does not mean that you are in front of a small child who wants something.
But you are faced with a spoiled child who will destroy everything to get what he wants.
5- He does not like competition
A spoiled child has no willingness to lose;
Therefore, he prefers not to compete in the first place, and parents may fall into the trap of some positive parenting methods that educate the child on the inevitability of permanent victory in school, the club, and in activities and skills.
But the truth is that loss is present in all areas of life, no one always wins, and the child must be raised to accept the loss, and that this does not diminish his effort and capabilities nor does it reflect his failure.
6- He does not respect his parents
A spoiled child deals with his parents as if they are his peers, and this is not related to the parents ’keenness to develop a friendship with the child.
But the matter is related to the absence of the parental role and the special authority of the family before the authority of the child, and of course this is not the child's fault.
But it is related to the parenting methods that parents follow.
7. He suffers from low self-esteem
Are you always trying to convince your child that you are special as a father, and that you can solve all the obstacles that he faces?
Psychologist Amy McCready says that acting this way won't make you a hero in your child's eyes;
But you will deprive him of building his self-confidence by learning from his mistakes. When he faces the world without your support for him, he will discover that things are not going the same way, and then he will always lack confidence in himself and his abilities.
A spoiled child treats his parents like their peers (Pixels)
8- He wants you to turn around
The whole family world does not have to revolve around the child's needs, it is important that children pay attention;
But they should also be aware that family members have their own time.
9 - Does not understand the value of money
Money does not come out of nowhere, and the child must learn that fact, as his desires are not more important than the family budget, and in a world that all marketing companies seek to influence the child's desires and interests, the child must know well the value of the effort spent behind the money, and if your child does not understand these matters You are in front of a spoiled child by all standards.