Family education also has "difficult sutras"?
Legislation is coming
【Dharma Eye View】
"Mythical beasts are out again", "Return to pre-liberation overnight", "The battle is about to begin again"... On January 20th, affected by the new crown pneumonia epidemic, Beijing announced that the city’s primary and secondary school students were out of school, and the city’s off-campus training institutions trained offline time out.
All of a sudden, the parents’ circle of friends exploded.
The family is the first school in life, and the parents are the children's first teachers.
But now, parents are shouting, "Every family has difficulty singing songs, and each teacher has difficulty reciting sutras."
On the same day, the Standing Committee of the National People's Congress deliberated the draft of the Family Education Law to provide a solution to the plight of family education.
The legislation of the Family Education Law reflects what problems our country’s family education faces, and how the draft can solve them, this reporter conducted an interview.
Helping helpless and helpless parents "make key points"
Ms. Xu from Weifang, Shandong has been a full-time mother since her child was born nine years ago.
Before the child went to kindergarten, she taught her children to learn simple addition and subtraction and English vocabulary. Later, she accompanied them to various tutoring classes every day.
But she is also often troubled: "Children are often disobedient" and "Flying dogs are the norm."
A hot word often reflects the aspirations of society.
From "little emperor" to "bear child" to "sacred beast", it reflects the helplessness and helplessness of parents about their children's education.
The divorce rate continues to rise, single-parent and reorganized families are increasing; tablet computers and smartphones are popularized, and the time for children to communicate with their parents is reduced; information is mixed, and children’s acceptance and discrimination are not equal; parents’ quality is uneven, and family education knowledge is lacking...
"The current level of family education in our country is not in proportion to our country with more than four billion families, and the demand for quality education among families." Zhao Gang, Dean of the Family Education Research Institute of Northeast Normal University, told reporters that the current society The requirements for the quality of education are getting higher and higher, and there are more and more thorny issues from parents and family education.
"Many parents lack a correct view of becoming talented, and the tendency to'emphasize intelligence and despise morality','emphasize physical health and neglect mental health' is widespread; many parents say they don't know how to educate their children, and some even regard beating and abuse as family education Way.” In the draft explanation, He Yiting, chairman of the Social Committee of the National People’s Congress, said that these problems have affected the healthy growth of many minors.
In response, the draft law sets up a chapter on the implementation of family education, clarifies the statutory responsibilities of parents or other guardians to implement family education, puts forward requirements for improving family education capabilities and creating a good family environment, and provides guidelines and regulations on the content and methods of family education .
After seeing several teenagers who committed suicide due to lack of family education, Zhang Rongzhen, deputy to the National People's Congress and director of the emergency department of Anhui Wuhu Traditional Chinese Medicine Hospital, realized the importance of scientific and effective family education and put forward legislative recommendations for two consecutive years.
"'Governing the family' is also the intended meaning of the modernization of the national governance system. It regulates and guides family education from the legal level, encourages parents to be the first teachers of their children, promotes children's overall development, and contributes to the improvement of national quality And the long-term development of the country." Zhang Rongzhen said.
Let "failed" parents "make up lessons"
On December 14, 2020, the Funing County Public Security Bureau of Yancheng City, Jiangsu Province issued a police notice: On December 13, 2020, a 17-year-old boy named Yang, a boy from Funing, Yancheng, Jiangsu, refused to accept family discipline. He and his mother Xu (46 years old) ) Quarreled and caused the death of his mother in physical conflict.
At about 19:00 that night, the public security organs arrested Yang who had absconded and brought him to justice.
In recent years, crimes involving minors have aroused social concern.
The flower of evil blooms from a pure mind. Looking back on its growth process, most of the family education has gone wrong.
"From the juvenile crime cases we have handled, the lack of or biased family education of the minors involved can reach more than 90%." Li Siyao, prosecutor of the People's Procuratorate of Haidian District, Beijing, said that there is generally one crime for minors. Progressive process.
Before breaking the law and committing crimes, most of them had children absenteeism, cheating, playing truant, or running away from home, or bullying classmates, petty theft, fighting, etc.
"Every child, the most important initial education comes from the family. Good family education is the first line of defense to prevent minors from committing crimes." Li Siyao said.
What should I do if the first line of defense is lost?
The draft set up a separate chapter "Intervention in Family Education", giving schools, village (resident) committees, parents or other guardians the power to criticize education and supervision, and clarify the situation and main factors of public security organs, people’s procuratorates, and people’s courts intervening in family education. Measures and make specific provisions on the implementation of compulsory family education guidance.
"When correcting a child who has already committed a crime, family education must not be absent." Li Siyao said, "Since the parents do not teach, or do not teach well or cannot teach, the children have committed illegal and criminal behaviors. We will tell the parents how to teach. Judging from my judicial practice in handling cases, the effect of helping and teaching minors whose parents actively participate in education and correction is better."
Set rules for "Parent Tutorial"
"Children grow up day by day, and parents continue to face challenges in the process of parenting: how to interpret children's emotions and behaviors? How to help children improve their learning status? How to handle parent-child relationships? ... We especially invite experts in the fields of education, psychology, and medicine. , I will answer your questions and solve your doubts.” Recently, a family education guidance service center in Shanghai issued a public welfare advisory announcement to discuss with parents about parenting.
Such family education and guidance service institutions quietly "head and join" in various places, but the phenomenon of underdeveloped institutions and irregular development also appears from time to time.
The imperfect system and mechanism of family education work, the unclear responsible agency, and unclear departmental responsibilities also affect the actual effect of family education work.
"Realizing the effective supply of family education services is an urgent need to pass legislation to regulate and protect the current family education work." He Yiting said.
To this end, the draft establishes a chapter on the promotion of family education, which clarifies the responsibilities and obligations of the government, village (resident) committees, schools, and other relevant social public institutions in promoting family education. Provisions for management, etc.
The draft also specifically stipulates that citizens, legal persons and unincorporated organizations can establish family education service institutions in accordance with the law.
Regarding the proliferation of family education and guidance service agencies, Zhao Gang believes that with the arrival of the second-child era and the transformation of parenting concepts, the family education market will become wider and wider.
"The emergence of this type of industry is a normal market behavior, but it requires practitioners to have certain qualifications and conditions, as well as a supervision mechanism, which not only guarantees the wide participation of the society, but also guarantees effective social management." Zhao Gang said.
The bottom line for parents to educate their children
"Education of children is a matter of our own family, and the state has to take care of this. Is the hand of public power stretched too long?" Since the draft was submitted for deliberation, many people have raised such questions.
"Family education is not only a family affair, but also a national affair." Yuan Ningning, an associate professor at China University of Political Science and Law, believes that cultivating children is not just a family affair, because the overall growth of a country's minors is also related to the development of the country and society.
As for whether public power is involved too much, Yuan Ningning explained that the draft fully respects the rights and obligations of parents to implement family education and clarifies that family education refers to the implementation of family education by parents or other guardians for the purpose of promoting their healthy growth. The government, schools and society provide support for family education and promote family education.
"When the draft stipulates that parents implement family education, it does not impose mandatory regulations. It is an advocacy regulation. Citizens can independently choose the way to educate their children." Yuan Ningning said that according to the draft regulations, government intervention must have boundaries. This also draws a bottom line for parents to educate their children-if parents or other guardians refuse or neglect to perform family education responsibilities, or implement family education improperly, leading to deviations in children's behavior, and parents or other guardians are implementing the family education process Only then will the state intervene in family education and carry out related interventions.
"In recent years, laws concerning the protection of minors are being intensively formulated and revised. We are building a relatively sound and complete legal system for the protection of minors." Yuan Ningning said, "We have specially formulated the Family Education Law. A preventive law is aimed at the lack and improper family education, solves the root problems of violations of minors and minors' crimes more thoroughly, and weaves our legal system for the protection of minors more tightly."
(Reporter Liu Huadong)