A few days after the #Metooincest movement, thousands of homosexuals released their word on sexual violence under the hashtag #Metoogay.
For David Malazoué, president of SOS Homophobie, there is an urgent need to create a culture of consent in LGBT relationships and meeting modes.
Under the hashtag #Metoogay, thousands of homosexuals in turn release their word on sexual violence, in the tradition of #Metoo and #Metooinceste, and launch their own debate on consent, long awaited by associations.
Among the anonymous testimonies: "I was 20 years old, he over 30, he invited me to his home after having given a master class in my theater class. I was paralyzed. He said 'who does not say a word consent '. I cried throughout the report and he said' I hadn't seen it. Did you like it anyway? '".
"At 16, he was one of my best friends. At 21, it was my boyfriend who refused my 'no'. At 26, it was a sex scene that made me the combo violence, constraint and threat, "said another man.
These testimonies come a few days after the #Metooinceste movement, which has seen thousands of people recount the sexual violence suffered within the family circle in childhood or adolescence, in the wake of the accusations made by Camille Kouchner against Olivier Duhamel.
"Sexist and sexual violence is a scourge that we must fight collectively. The victims must be believed, listened to and supported", reacted on Twitter Elisabeth Moreno, Minister for Equality.
An elected representative of Paris and his spouse accused
The #Metoogay hashtag was also shared after Paris Council PCF elected official Maxime Cochard and his spouse were charged with rape and sexual assault, which they deny.
The Communist Party asked them to step aside from their responsibilities within the PCF.
A young man claimed on Twitter that he was raped by them at the age of 18, when he was in a "particularly vulnerable situation".
The elected EELV and deputy to the City of Paris Maxime Belliard "welcomed this decision".
"Being gay myself, I see very well the reality of this environment which is also a violent environment, marked by the logic of patriarchal domination, the same mechanisms, a veiled violence", he told AFP.
"Not a private matter"
Seeing the hashtag emerge Thursday evening, Nicolas Martin, science journalist at France Culture, decided "that it was the moment" for him to publicly testify to the rapes suffered as early as 11 and for six years.
Since this tweet, "it's pitching," he told AFP, trying to analyze the mechanism that prompted him to speak publicly.
"Speech should no longer be killed, rape is not a private or bedroom affair, it is a structural and massive trend in society and as long as it is not questioned, men - since it is mainly they who rape, and in the majority of women it should be remembered - will continue to rape with impunity ", he pleads.
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"It is not necessarily specific to the gay community. The crux of the problem is patriarchy. We have not resolved the issue of domination?" Says Sébastien Tüller, in charge of LGBTI issues for Amnesty France .
A taboo in the community
Since 2017 and a first massive release of women's voices around the hashtag #MeToo, testimonials breaking the taboo of sexual violence have multiplied and are structured, carried by public figures or sectors of society such as sport, catering, or the world of culture.
In his investigation "In search of the gay MeToo" for the magazine
Vice
, the journalist Matthieu Foucher concluded last September that these attacks remained "one of the biggest taboos and unthought of the community".
For David Malazoué, president of SOS Homophobie, there is an urgent need to create a culture of consent in LGBT relationships and meeting modes.
"In the imagination of some in the gay community, from the moment there is a start of flirting, it's as if that justifies everything that happens after".
"It is sometimes difficult to be heard as a victim, to say: 'I went to the sauna but things went much further than I wanted'", he explains.