The father-daughter relationship plays a vital role in her growth journey, as the father remains the most influential man in her life, whether this effect is positive or negative, so the father should understand what the girl’s needs are in the different stages of her development to strengthen the parental relationship between them.
Child and behavior modification specialist Daniel Flint has presented, through Psychology Today, a series on parent-child relationships by gender, to reveal evidence regarding what a daughter needs from her father during her growth.
1. Warmth
According to Flint, a study was conducted that compared a group of depressed adolescent girls and others who were not depressed, the results highlighted the importance of the relationship between father and daughter and quality of communication, girls who were diagnosed with depression were more likely to report feeling neglected by their father, and parents of depressed teenage girls also appeared They do not acknowledge the lack of warmth and parental attachment their daughters feel, perhaps due to poor quality of communication.
2. Joint physical activity
A group of parents were trained using the DADEE program to focus on improving parenting skills, and fathers' involvement with their daughters in fitness-based activities. Girls who participated in this training group with their fathers experienced greater increases in social-emotional competence, decision-making skills, and social awareness And personal responsibility.
A father should actively share his daughter's hobbies (Getty Images)
3. Eating disorder
In a study of groups of women diagnosed with mental disorders and Eating disorders, researchers uncovered the nature of the participants' relationship with their fathers through a variety of questions, and the results indicated that women with a mental disorder were more likely to describe their father as less. Nurturing. For women with an eating disorder, their fathers have been described as selfish.
4. Share and communicate
Researchers were surprised by the positive effects of father-daughter engagement and communication, even for girls who were living with their stepfather rather than their biological fathers.
5. Share your interests
The father should share his daughter’s hobbies with interest. If she is interested in collecting coins, take her to coin shows, and use the Internet to learn about rare coins and talk about them. Is your daughter gifted in any sport such as volleyball?
Be supportive and show her that you care.
6. Respect her mother
The first relationship that a daughter lives is the relationship between her mother and her father, if her father does not respect his wife through physical or emotional abuse, the daughter may think that this is the relationship expected from marriage, so the father should show affection and respect with his wife to set an example for his daughter.
If the father does not respect his wife, the daughter may think that this is the relationship expected from marriage (communication sites)
7. Treat it like a friend
When your daughter comes to you and discusses personal issues and problems, you should know that you will treat her with respect and confidence, and the discussion should not be over the dinner table with the rest of the family.
8. A daughter needs a spiritual leader
The father should be the spiritual leader of the family and undertake the religious education of his children.
9. She needs a positive role model
Many girls today lack a positive male role model in their lives. The father is the first man in the girl’s life she knows closely, and her father sets the standard for all other men in her life, and he will help her as a role model in choosing a good husband in the future. You are providing the best example that you can She absolutely has to accept responsibility for her actions.
Mitchell S. Owens, columnist and author, gave some advice to fathers to support the crucial role a father plays in the psychosocial role of his daughter, through an article he published on the Forthefamily website.
As a father of two, Mitchell says, I often feel the weight of the role I play in my daughter's life. I always realize how my words and actions affect my girls ’development into young women, but what exactly do girls need from their relationships with their fathers?
10. Be encouraging
Parents tend to push children hard, but it is imperative not to provoke boys so that they do not get angry or discouraged. Being an encouraging voice in our girls ’lives does not make them weak, but rather makes them strong.
11. Be compassionate
If girls don't get the affection of parents they will look for it elsewhere, affection can be in our words and actions.
12. Be present
Fathers and mothers are preoccupied with balancing work and parenthood, and they care about what they do without caring for their role as parents, so when there is an opportunity to spend time with daughters, we must give them our full attention, and give the feeling that nothing matters to us other than what is happening at that moment with them.
13. Be honest
The best we can do is to show our daughters that a strong man is able to admit his faults and shortcomings. If we want our daughters to marry an honest and fair man, we must show the same to them.